Cancer has taken my husband

I only joined cancer chat on 07/01/016 and a month later I am reporting his passing.

Yesterday,08/02/16 at 1.20am my darling husband, Nigel,52 ,of 25 years, passed away.

He was taken from me by this evil, wicked ,horrible disease.

He was diagnosed in June with metastatic melanoma, stage 4 skin cancer.

Despite treatment and his brave and positive battle with this vile disease, he lost and it won.

 

  • Paddock3, I am so very sorry to read your post about your lovely husband.  I know how you feel my husband passed away on 29th October, there is nothing I can say to make you feel better, just try to be strong, I know its really hard.  My thoughts are with you xxxxx

    Debbie

  • Dear Paddock3

    Our sincere condolences to you and your family. Losing a loved one, especially your husband of 25 years, is just devastating and we are so sorry for your loss.

    Please do continue to use the forum as I know you will find the kind words and support from our members a great comfort during this very difficult time.

    Best wishes,

    Kirsty

     

  • Oh I'm so sorry paddock I know is you feel as I lost my husband 4 years ago and it was so hard for me. I do hope your okay and you have a lot of support -Diane x

  • Oh I am sorry to hear that.- I was married to Melanie for 25 years too

    I hope that it was as painless and peaceful as possible - were you able to be with him?

    I'd imagine that right now your mind is a whirlwind of emotions - I found some stability in busying myself in all the things you have to do afterwards, it helped me.

    He's reached the end of his journey now but you're just starting a new ione yourself and no it isn't easy but there are a lot of us on here at different stages of healing from our losses

    Don't be a stranger

  • Saddened to read your post Paddock3.  I was where you are  just over 13 months ago(my husband  of 37 years and best friend for over 42yrs taken too early)  and nothing about the cancer journey or a loved one's passing is easy. It is not easy to find the right words but the forum has helped me cope day to day and hope we can offer a listening ear when you need it. hugs  Jules

  • Dear Paddock3, I ​feel for you

    deeply, I have sent friend request, as like you my 52year old husband has also just passed away.Jayne

  • Hi JayneJayne,

    We are so sorry to hear your husband has just passed away. I hope this forum will bring you a little comfort in this difficult time and that you can get in touch with Paddock3 and any other of our forum members who may be experiencing the same pain of losing a loved one.

    Warm wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • My heart goes out to you and I wonder how you are managing. 

    My husband died six months ago, he was 55, we were married for 24 happy years

    From diagnosis to end : 8 weeks... It seems unacceptable..as if it could not be true..but it is...I am lucky to have support from family amd friends, but none, luckily, of them have lost their partner, I feel so lost and heartbroken

    I really dont know what to do with myself and how to cope with everything I feel and think..

  • Hi Paddock3

    I am at the same stage as you, my wife lost her 18 month battle with peritoneal cancer on the 16 th Feb having spent the last 8 weeks in the hospice.

    Iam sat here today waiting, as it is her funeral tomorrow, just want yo get through the day.

    Keep posting, I will be here as will all the other new friends you now have.

    It's nice to have a hand to hold. 

     

    Deggsy

  • Good luck for tomorrow Deggsy

    Remember the funeral is for all of you left rather than for her - it doesn't matter if you fluff your lines or find you have to stop half way through - it's not an exam it's just a chance for you all to sit around remember her and get some sort of closure.

    So many people will be there telling you what a wonderful person she was - Enjoy it