my boyfriends dad is very ill and has been given weeks to live, at the very best he might make it a couple of months but this seems unlikely. I am coming up to 7 months pregnant so we’re both very emotional people right now. I feel I am trying to support him but I am finding it increasingly difficult to have him around as he is incredibly argumentative about everything so I feel I am better to say nothing at all, which then makes me feel and appear unsupportive.
When we talk it only seems to be about death and cancer which I understand is at the forefront of his mind, but we are polar opposites at present. I am thinking of bringing a new life into the world and he is thinking about losing his father constantly. It hasn’t been the easiest pregnancy and it wasn’t planned but I feel I am constantly being told I was never happy about it to begin with and I therefore I can’t use his low mood with regard to his dad dying as any kind of excuse for taking the shine off of it.
I am at a loss - I feel like me and the baby are very much second best now and I’ve even told him to go back to his mums house now whilst all this is going on because I cannot deal with the constant arguments and talk of death and cancer. It makes me feel like a selfish and awful girlfriend but Im finding the pregnancy hard enough to deal without all of the constant arguments also.
his dad is presently in hospital and it doesn’t look like he will be returning home, he now has stage 4 bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs, bones and brain. I do not know how to support him without being a complete mute as everything I say seems to be wrong and I’m concerned when the baby comes in the next 10 weeks it will be no better, perhaps worse when he is dealing with his grief and potential passing of his father.
my mum and dad have and are really trying to support him but he often makes snidey comments about them, I don’t know if this is out of jealousy because of what’s happening but it’s hurtful as they are really trying.
Any advice would be helpful at this time.
