Hi there ..

My heart goes out to you, wanting to be honest with your daughter is always a good thing, as she would be even angrier if you'd not told her .. GENTLE honesty I have found is always the way to go with children of any age .. appropriate to their age ... 

I've also had a niece that was anorexic as a teenager, so understand how fragile they are ... I'm sure if you put in the search engine on home page talking to children about cancer .. you may find a bit of info there .. I think she will pick up on all adult vibes .. and the word cancer is really scary ... but when I thought I may not come through my mastectomy , I would prepare my then 5 year old granddaughter who is my reason to wake up each day , that one day I may be a star up there next to my mum's star .. but I'll look down every night to see how she is .. and she was happy with that ...

And maybe explaining, her untie still has 1 to 2 years, there's still time to make lots of memories ... and there's some on here still going well after the time they were given .. maybe your sister in law could write to her, and for her sake, sound positive ... she will need lots of T L C now.. 

There is help out there with McMillan, who just may help chat to your daughter .. I hope you get the advice to help her .. sending you all a big hug ...   Chrissie 

Hi Anna, 

so sorry to hear of you news, as a parent to someone with mental health issues I decided not to tell them the extent of my breast cancer, if it stays they way it is at the moment I won’t need to but if my situation changes and I need chemo them I would have to tell them but would drip feed the information to them. Your daughter has had a huge shock and it may be an idea to get her counselling so she has someone independent to talk to as it’s often difficult for family members to share their feelings as they don’t want to upset other family members. I would also let her school know she is going through s difficult time so they to can support her.