im wondering if there are any books out there that I could read? Preferably a book written by someone explaining their grief of the loss of their parent? Or a book among those lines..
When mum died a friend sent me a book called On grief and grieving by Elisabeth Kubler Ross.
It's on amazon. It's quite helpful but if you look on Amazon you will find books specifically around losing parents and dads.
There are several books around losing your mum which I've considered getting. I am currently working my way through the grief recovery handbook. I haventvstarted the action with yet but the first 6 chapters is very interesting and shows how people are wrongly taught to deal with grief from a young age.
I'm sure others will recommend books specifically around losing your dad.
I'm having a bad day today missing mum so much. I feel this has aged me by years.
Hello Rebecca, I lost my mum to Ovarian cancer on 11th September. 2 1/2 years she battled and we new it was terminal, but she died suddenly of heart failure when we had been out for dinner a few days before. We are in shock still and waiting for the funeral in some kind of hellish limbo. My heart goes out to you.
regarding books. I am reading a book called “Dead Moms Club”. It sounds quite irreverent but it’s brought me such comfort. The lady who wrote it is a comedian and author. She writes about the loss of her mother when she was 27 to pancreatic cancer 10 months after diagnosis. It’s told which such frank honesty and she talks about the death, the illness, the days, months and years (10) since her mother passed and how it’s affected her.
she did all the things I’ve done, looked for signs, read old texts and emails, just to feel the connection. She expresses her anger, the unfairness, becoming a mother herself. She talks about being desperate and going to a Psychic, and then counselling.
Yes it’s funny in parts and sad and comforting. I read it when I feel low and i feel like I’m not alone. That I will survive. I can’t recommend it enough.
I posted this in reply to Rebecca but see your comment is newer and you might benefit from this too
I lost my mum to Ovarian cancer on 11th September. 2 1/2 years she battled and we new it was terminal, but she died suddenly of heart failure when we had been out for dinner a few days before. We are in shock still and waiting for the funeral in some kind of hellish limbo. My heart goes out to you.
regarding books. I am reading a book called “Dead Moms Club”. It sounds quite irreverent but it’s brought me such comfort. The lady who wrote it is a comedian and author. She writes about the loss of her mother when she was 27 to pancreatic cancer 10 months after diagnosis. It’s told which such frank honesty and she talks about the death, the illness, the days, months and years (10) since her mother passed and how it’s affected her.
she did all the things I’ve done, looked for signs, read old texts and emails, just to feel the connection. She expresses her anger, the unfairness, becoming a mother herself. She talks about being desperate and going to a Psychic, and then counselling.
Yes it’s funny in parts and sad and comforting. I read it when I feel low and i feel like I’m not alone. That I will survive. I can’t recommend it enough.
I will get a copy. It seems I cant get enough of reading about people who have lost their mum. I read alot of stories on the internet and I also connect with people who have lost a parent on sue ryder.com
It just brings comfort at a time when you feel you are the only one who has lost their mum.
Sorry to hear about your mum and so recent as well. And it doesn't matter if you knew your mum was I'll. She still died suddenly and it's so hard.
The truth is that my mum was very ill, she just didnt know it. And for that I'm grateful as mum would have given up if she knew what was going on inside her body.
I hope the funeral went ok, if it's taken place yet?
Hi Cheryl, yes my mum’s funeral is on 3rd Oct. over 3 weeks since she died. It feels like it’s been 3 months. How can time move so slowly! I’m going to see her at the chapel of rest tomorrow. More because the idea that I have the chance to see her face again on this planet is too much of a temptation to pass up. To look at her again. To see her .. I will probably regret it, I don’t care at this point. I just want to see her one last time. It’s going to be so hard, but anything is better than the last time I saw her, just after she had died in the ambulance, with a tube in her mouth, her eyes still open. Horrible.
I’m like you, I’m just addicted to reading about other peoples experiences and it gives me comfort. Thank you for that Cheryl
I dknt think you will regret seeing your mum as your last memory is unhappy and you will see her peaceful and beautiful. I chose not to see my mum asmy last memory was of her waving to me as she went down for her operation. The last thing she said was 'we will be laughing about this over a glass of wine in a couple of weeks'.
I chose to keep that memory rather than see her lying still, not able to answer me back (something she always did was have the last word!)
Over 3 weeks for a funeral is awful. It just delays such an awful day. I hope it goes as well as it can.
Thankyou everyone for commenting on my discuission. It really means a lot. I am going to have a browse on amazon later on tonight to see what I can find.
I just wanted to know how you got on seeing your Mum at the Chapel of Rest.
I went to see my wife there and it was something I was dreading, and as upsetting as it was I am glad I went. I felt I had to say goodbye for the last time but my children did not want to attend, which is understandable. That time will live with you for the rest of your life however sad it was but at least you know she is at peace.
