My dad, who is 78, has been diagnosed with what they think is Cholangiocarcinoma (the biopsy wasn't conclusive), he has a large tumour in his liver and 2 mets in his spine and has now developed a melanoma on his head, which they think is unrelated. I have googled and have seen there is a link between pancreatic cancer and skin melanomas but when I raised this with his consultant it was just dismissed. Does anyone have any experience of this?
His only symptoms are sciatica and a back ache, which he's had for 10 months. He has been told he's got months but we've no idea roughly how many. He is now on palliative chemo, GemCis, with no nasty side effects so far apart from tiredness. He and my mum are living with me because my mother had dementia and he can't cope with his illness and hers. I am really struggling to look after them both (her in particular), with all the appointments etc, the hospital is an hour and a half drive away and we have to go there at least twice a week. I am also finding it so hard not knowing how long he has left, he doesn't want to know and the docs won't tell me.
My whole life is now consumed with their care, I know they are my parents and I want to be there for them but it's so very hard to hold it together...
