My mum had BC 13 years ago. I remember it so clearly like it was yesterday. She had a small lump she found herself and it had spread to lymph nodes. They removed the lump and lymph nodes under left arm and she did well on chemo and radiotherapy. It's not a walk in the park by any means and it's a rollercoaster ride of emotions for everyone but keep as positive as you can and look after yourself. You will get through this as hard to believe as that may be at the moment. I sincerely hope that you both get some better news in the coming days/weeks. Take care.

Thank you.

we know what it men's if it's spread anywhere else though and we are finding it very difficult to look beyond that at the minute.

i guess it's a lot easier to be pessimistic than optimistic at the minute!!