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Any help?

30 Dec 2017 16:45

My 79year old mother has been diagnosed with stage 4 gallbladder cancer. She has no wish to know anything about it and has refused chemotherapy, so no treatment either. What are her chances of survival? Please any advice would be great. 

Re: Any help?

30 Dec 2017 17:27 in response to Diandal

HI Diandal.

I'm not a doctor and I had to look up this information.  Gall bladder cancer is very rare.

I'm sorry, but according to the Cancer Research pages on this particular cancer, the outlook is not at all good.  Stage 4 is the most advanced form of cancer; it means that the cancer has spread away from the main site to different parts of the body. The same page says that on average only 5% of people with this diagnosis are still alive after 5 years, and presumably this is after treatment for most of them. 

As your mother is refusing treatment, I think the focus now will be making sure your mother is comfortable for her remaining time. 

I can understand how upsetting this will be for you and it breaks my heart to type it. When you're ready, you can read about gall bladder cancer here:

This site exists for people who are affected by cancer whether as carers or sufferers to share their hopes, fears, frustrations, and often anger. Feel free to ask for help, or even just vent, at any time. 

Re: Any help?

12 Jan 2018 14:21 in response to telemando
Thank you for information, please can you let me know what to expect illness wise, so sorry for being ignorant, but for the last few weeks all she has done is sleep. I feel so useless. Thank you again.

Re: Any help?

12 Jan 2018 14:26 in response to Diandal

Hi Diandal

I'm sorry, but I'm not a doctor and I really don't know what your mother can expect. You need to talk to her consultants about this, plus also what in the way of palliative or hospice care is available. 

Re: Any help?

12 Jan 2018 14:46 in response to Diandal

Hi Diandal, I'm really sorry to hear about your mum. 

As telemando says, the people best placed to answer your questions are her medical team. 

We also have a team of cancer information nurses who are here to talk, if you'd like to chat with them. You can reach them on 0808 800 4040 (Mon - Fri, 9am - 5pm). 

Hopefully someone with experience of this cancer will be along to share some thoughts on this soon, too. 

Wishing you all the best in the meantime.

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Re: Any help?

12 Jan 2018 22:08 in response to Diandal
Hi Diandal, sorry to hear about your mum...My mum died from galbladder cancer in October...Ask if you want something...

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13 Jan 2018 10:29 in response to Mia44
Hi Mia, thank you, I have zillions of questions really, but just what to expect is the main one. She is sleeping a lot, some times very shivery, how long before she will be in pain, am so sorry for your loss, but truly appreciate anything you can tell me. Thanks Diane