Am i wrong.

Hi All.

 

I am in need of some help. My wife passed from cancer nearly 4 weeks ago. Since then all I think about is her. I am having panic attacks and stress. Everytime I think of things I cannot cope with never seeing her again. People tell me things get better as time moves on. I do not want time without her much more. I lost my soul mate my reason for living. All I want to do is join her. But I don't know how I can get back to her. I have thought of doing things to help me be with her. Am I wrong feeling like this? Is this the normal feelings. I just miss her so much I cannot carry on with life. I need help.

  • I'm so sorry about your wife Andy and how you are feeling at the moment.

    I know you are seeking help so I just wanted to let you know that the Samaritans are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week on 116 123 if you want to speak to someone about how you are feeling. There is also a charity called Cruse Bereavement that specialise in providing bereavement support which I think would be really useful to you at this moment in time so do have a look at their website to find out more about them.

    Have you spoken to your GP about the panic attacks and stress you are having at the moment Andy? If not do make sure you make an appointment to see them as they will be able to help with this and let you know what other bereavement support is available to you in your local area.

    Keep posting when you are feeling like this Andy. We will always be here to listen and do all we can to help you through this.

    Kind Regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Andy,  I just wanted to reach out and let you know that people are listening. My husband is terminally Ill and I have days when I really struggle! What you are feeling is temporary and will pass - just keep saying that to yourself! It can only get better from now on. Try and find a support group or get referred for counselling- it really does help you get your head round things. You are not alone - we are listening. xx

  • Andy you must speak to someone please don't think like that you obviously loved your wife more than anything in this world and the pain seems unbearable at the moment and you probably think the same as we all do that this pain won't go away.but please beleive me time is a great healer and your wife will be looking over you .you need to be strong for her because she will still live through you and she would not want to see you hurt this much yous obviously loved each other so much hold onto that and your beautiful memories of your life together.god bless you and please talk to someone x