Hello,

I am hoping for some advice please. We found out three weeks ago from a scan that my dad had bone metastases to the rib, pelvis and spine. He has recently had a PET scan which confirmed the bone issues but the only other thing that came up was some tiny nodules on lungs which they do not think is the primary as they are so small.

He is going to have a bone marrow biopsy at some point next week but it feels like it is taking forever to try and get a diagnosis.

The GP prescribed him morphine MST slow release a few weeks ago but when he takes this he is highly confused and hostile. It is very upsetting to see as he says he is in pain but says my mother and I are not caring for him despite us being on hand 24/7.

I am 36 years old and moved back in with them when this first happened to provide support and help. I have a job (currently work from home) and I am giving as much time as I can but I am finding it increasingly stressful when I am trying my best and being told we don't care.

Apart from the issues with the bones he has no other symptoms and was very fit and healthy 70 year old man. Since finding out it is cancer (he previously had cancer in 2020 which is unrelated) he has taken to bed and is in the same room all day. No amount of encouragement will get him up and about and I am at a loss as to how to help him. I got him a wheelchair for the hospital appts but he will not go out in it and stays home all day.

I am hoping that once we know what type of cancer they will be able to offer treatment to help his pain and back issue which at the moment are the only main symptoms.

I am going to contact the GP to see if there is alternative medication which doesn't cause him distress but if anyone has advice on how to cope it would be greatly appreciated. I am dreading waking up in the morning.

Thank you