Gosh I'm not sure where to start. I am very close to a 59 year old man who has prostrate cancer. He lives by himself and his child is at uni. He is very stubborn. He has been having treatment for prostate cancer and initially it was going well with him being told he should be in remission by Christmas. Unfortunately when he had a recent check up his levels had gone up and they started radiotherapy again. Whereas before the radiotherapy was making him ache for maybe a day and a bit nauseous a few days later, now he is throwing up for hours in end and not in a good way. As a result he is exhausted. He won't accept any offer of help and hasn't told many people about the cancer. Does the increased reaction to the radiotherapy mean he is having a stronger dose. He's in a bad way today and due more in a couple of days time. He also told me he had an operation to remove the cancer a few weeks back. Didn't give too much detail, but apparently "it's fine" but they didn't get all the cancer and if the hospital continue to not be happy he will ge given chemotherapy. I want to support him but he doesn't give me the full picture "I'm fine" when he's clearly not. Why would they remove the cancer now if they didn't do it before? What can he do to help with the sickness? Does testing help as he seems to say there's no point sitting around. Do I leave him to get on with it or do I push him to let me in?
