Hi guys, I have been dealing with cancer (Melanoma) now for almost 3 years. I have been picking up alot of weight and I struggle to loose weight.
I am also battling with my appearance on how I look. My hair doesn't grow I must do the wigs and I hate it. I am fat and my belly always looks like I am pregant. I am not use to looking like this at all. Its extremely hard for me as a woman. I am a married woman with a son 16 and daughter 9 and I do not feel attractive anymore and also I find that my husband does not find me attractive anymore as we are not intemate anymore. He stood by my from the beginning but as time progressed he pulled away... I feel like I am standing in his way of having other things. I sometimes sit and I just starts crying...I sometimes feel as if I can just dissapear and sometimes wonder WHY ME what did I do to deserve this, am I being punished?
To top it all off I work for a boss who is absolutely horrible. He said to me that God is punishing me and after knowing that I had 3 lesions on my brain he started calling me stupid, slow, useless.... He never bothers asking me after a Dr's appointment what does Dr say instead when I leave office for appointment he talks bad behind my back to my colleagues. I feel that I am stuck at the moment. I desperately want to get out of this job but in a way I am stuck...I mean who will employ a cancer patient.. What tops it all is he told almost all of our clients about me having cancer and not once has he offered me any help or assistance with anything. To top things off my father also passed from cancer during the time that I went for my full brain radiation and treatments...
To today I still believe that after he said the words "Gods punishing you" my cancer spread to my brain... I am clear of the lesions in my brain and my lung but still have a lesion on my liver.
I have been very brave and strong from the beginning but lately I feel like I am falling further and further down...
Anyone's advise will be appreciated.