Hi all

I'm new to all of this! 

Today my mums been told that the treatment will now be palliative. A month ago Today she got told she had spinal mets as her first ever diagnosis, they still can't be sure of where her primary is.

For the past few days to a week my mum has been so confused with either her medication or whatever else is going on she's not been on this planet, instead she's been in her own little happy place. After receiving some treatment in hospital she's not as confused and is now sound of mind..so Today when they told her she's palliative, I had her on the phone in extreme tears saying she's scared.

What the heck do I say to her. I tried my best not to cry out loud with her. But my mind went blank and I was just lost for words hearing her all upset.

I understand that due to covid the hospital won't allow any visitors, but I'm so angry at the thought of her being all alone trying to digest this news without anyone holding her hand.

I feel like I'm being selfish that I'm just as scared and in so much pain too! 

Please can anyone give me advice on how to comfort her or what to say at this terrible time 

Thank you xx