Hi there ...

Just wanted to say hope all your treatment goes well .. remember your body will need lots of rest ... you can gradually build up after .. enjoy chilling for a change ... thinking of you while your kicking cancers butt .. it's not about winning or losing... it's about sticking two fingers up to cancer ..

Well bend, but we won't brake ... Chrissie  x

So pleased we could help a little.   A worry shared is a worry halved!  Sounds like your family have got your back, take the help when you need, it, I love exercise as well, it makes you feel better but be careful whilst having treatment As it can make you tired and rest will be what you need.  Good luck for the future  John.   Carol 

Hi John,

I just saw your first post too and wanted to say welcome, but sorry you're in the situation that you've had to come here.  The support, comfort, advice and wisdom on here has been invaluable to me and I hope you find it the same.

You sound like someone who really takes control of their life, but of course with news like that you're going to take a knock.  I have Bipolar Disorder and have had a number of long-term severe depressive episodes over the years so, like you, I took a real knock when diagnosed a few months ago.  However, on very much the positive side I've found that the skills I've developed from years of fighting mental illness on a daily basis are very much 'transferrable skills' and they've helped me through this cancer journey.  I imagine it will be the same for you.

I realise you said you think your cancer is incurable?  As I think someone rightly pointed out there are lots of people nowadays living with incurable cancers and doing so with a reasonable quality of life (even a very good quality of life in the cases of two people I know), so it's worth hanging on to that and aiming to be one of those people.  One of my friends is now at 20 years with her brain tumour, and it was both incurable and became untreatable.  A few years after diagnosis her tumour just stopped growing for no known reason, she's since had a family and is back working and living life.

It sounds like you're all prepared and ready to go with chemo.  I would just say 'take it as it comes', I used a lot of mind over matter when it came to the nausea and ended up having very few days at all where I actually felt nauseous, even though every day I woke up my brain initially tried to tell me I felt sick.  You've certainly given yourself a great basis for minimising side effects with upping your fitness so hopefully you're going to tolerate treatment pretty well.

Best wishes for your first treatment.  Hope it's in nice friendly and chilled-out environment.  Let us know how you get on.

All the best,
LJx