Wishing you all the best x

Hi Sunandsea,

I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis and hoping that nothing shows up in the lymph nodes next week. This is a scary time waiting for results and facing the unknown to start with. I am not at all surprized that you are feeling shell shocked about it all. Not many of us deal with these initial stages well. Things do improve as you begin to know exactly what you are dealing with and you go on to treat the condition.

Did you take someone with you to your last appointment? It is always a good idea. It is also sensible to draw up a list of questions before your appointment. I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer in the past 8 years and always take my hubby and 2 sets of questions. Whilst I am asking the consultant, my hubby is writing down the answers. This means that we don't forget anything. Don't worry about doing this, as your surgeon will be quite used to it. You will find that you will need to change your questions from one visit to the next.

I have everything crossed for you.

Please let us know how you get on. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you Jolamine- yes having read quite a few posts on this forum, my reactions are pretty similar, if not identical to many others. I still haven't cried, which is a bit wierd because I thought I would have been crying by now - I still think I'm not quite sure it's me they're talking about and arranging all these appoinments for! My husband came with me, bless him, he's so worried, I can tell and yet he doesn't let on.It is definately a surreal feeling when the surgeon talks you through the diagnosis and then possible treatments - and as for reconstruction- oh my - so many options - I have no idea at the moment what to do so I keep reading around it and then maybe I can be a little more prepared and make a decision. I asked about my other breast as I have the BRCA1 mutation and think I might get cancer there too- It's all such a bombshell and so hard to take on board - everyone around me, friends and my amazing family are so supportive but I still can't quite get my head around it all. I know next week, when I go to the hospital things will definately hit home- big time

thanks to everyone on here for listening and sharing x

Hi Sunandsea,

I am pretty sure that the tears will come eventually and you may even have difficulty stemming the tears once they start. Still, crying is a great release when you are trying to assimilate your diagnosis. I am like you, I walked round in a daze for a couple of weeks.

I am glad to hear that your hubby accompanied you to your last visit. If your hubby writes down some of the answers to your questions you will find it easier to weigh things up. Waiting on results is always extremely stressful.
Here's hoping that all goes well with the hospital next week.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx