28 year old boyfriend stage palliative care11 Jan 2023 22:58
My boyfriend at 28 was blocked couldn’t go the toilet for 3 weeks he eventually went to the hospital on Christmas Eve where they did a scan and found cancer, bowel cancer he underwent surgery to remove the poo stuck there he woke up too 2 stoma bags and has been in hospital since recovering we new it was cancer and it was in his bladder and again see his stomach wall.
All the doctors had a meeting Friday they came monday to tell him he is riddled with cancer in his bowel area it’s everywhere and in difficult places He has a week to a month to live with no chemo with chemo a year there a tiny chance the chemo works and then he can have surgery but they would be removing everything his bowl bladder all of it, he’s getting out Wednesday at the latest because either next Wednesday or Monday the following week he starts chemo
and I’m lost, I Don’t know what to do I have no hope I’m 26 and I’m heartbroken it’s happened to him and it’s as bad as it can get for him, I see how sad he is and scared and I want to take it all but I can’t I’d swap positions if I could. His family are great and so are mine but I’m not as strong as I make out he’s my first love and I’m going to lose him. And I’ve never been so scared in my whole life. He keeps making little comments about when he dies and it's like someone has taken a dagger through my chest. I'll never grow old with him or have kids or have any of the life we dreamt of. I'm at a total loss.