Hi there .. and welcome to the club no one really wanted to join, but none the less it's a great club, with great people ...

My breast cancer was the same grade and stage as yours .. I know hearing it we all think that's it .. and everything we know turns upside down .. and being a single parent must be even harder ..

I came on here nearly 3 years ago like you, needing a buddy who knew what I was feeling .. well I found my guardian angel, [@Jolamine]‍ .... she took me under her wing .. and boy did it help in those early days .. there were 5/6 others joined in our chats .. all with different cancers and different treatments.. all breast friends ... well lots others joined along the way .. wer all still here .. one lass even had a little one after her journey .. and the others .. most have gone back to their life post cancer... so you hold on in there ..

I think we all got a strength by holding on, and taking on that bully called cancer ... we looked it in the eye .. yes it knocked us all down occasionally.. we'd rant , scream, cuss ... then get back up and look it in the eye again .. cause cancer wants us to lay down and never get up,  crumble ... so you jump on the scary rollercoaster called cancer .. hold on tight and when the going gets tough, look round and wer all on there with you .. we know how it feels .. your not alone , esp on a lonely Sunday... they can be crule .. 

I'm tagging in [@Marlyn]‍  if she picks this up, i know she will pop by ... shes just gone through her treatment and comming out the other side ... sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

Thanks for reply Chriss, I've come across @Jolamine on another thread....she is an amazing soul. 

Thank you you for the virtual hug too....sending one right back at you. 

Now to eat a little chocolate with a warming fruit tea, and then off to bed early for the week ahead....cancer can do one.....

xxx

Morning love,

lean on us, sadly we've been there and done it or going through it. We totally understand your emotions. 

This forum was a god send to me last year, I don't know what I'd have done without the support of these lovely ladies ( and of course [@Billygoat]‍ ... can't leave him out) 

All I can say is ..although it won't feel like it , the time soon flies by. Accept any help that's offered and takes things daily, don't be looking too far ahead. Trust your healcare professionals and take notes along the way if you can, it's surprising what can go in one ear and straight out the other.

Good luck love, you can do this, we'll hold your hand xx

Hi deefor just popped on to see why marlin tagged me. I'm stage 4 diagnosed Feb 2016 living with my uninvited guest. Living completely normal life looking after my disabled wife.. I'm always cheerful and try to help others. Best wishes for the future.

Billy 

Morning Marlyn, thanks for taking the time to reply.  I've been 'allocating time' to handle things - that way I figure I don't have to have a cancer day, every day.  

I feel very fortunate to have this forum, and so many sharing experiences. I also appreciate that there are others in a far worse situation, and feel very humble about that.

that said, it still sucks! 

Wishing you a good day xxxxx

Hi Billy,

thanks for reply, and sorry to hear of your situation . Mostly I'm good....just having a moment on Sunday! 

Wishing you the very best.

regards x

One week on, it's been a busy one, and then 'boom' Saturday night arrives, couples are out, , families are in, I'm still cooking the dinner doing the washing, etc etc, nobody to give me a hug, tell me to sit and out my feet up, or to discuss my deepest fears with...

hope you're all having a 'good' week, love to you all

xx

Hi

I too am a single mum. Currently undergoing investigations for lung cancer. My kids are 15 and 20 and I am beside myself with fear as well as in pain. I totally understand how you feel having no one there to hug you or talk to about what's going on. I have sent a friend request. Feel free to pm me although I am a bit of a mess

Andrea xx