Katie, my thoughts are with you. My Mum died a few days ago. All I can say is that you should take it moment by moment. Every person is different and no one follows the same path. If it helps you to be prepared then google end of life signs cancer, and it will give you some idea. I’m sending you love and best wishes x 

Hi Katie, you are asking all the questions i had.  My mum died on Wednesday (4 days ago) after a 2 and a half year battle with Ovarian stage4

we went out for dinner Saturday she died on Wednesday.  Looking back she was cold to the touch and very frail, no appetite and forced herself to eat. but she had a lovely time and was better than she had been for a few weeks. she was fine sunday and monday too.  Only Tuesday she had a slight temperature.

She went into cardiac arrest on the morning of Wed and the paramedics found her blood sugar was 1.8. normal low is 3.8 and normal is over 5... this probably killed her and i would think her organs all just failed. she had tumours in her liver, bowel, bladder and all over the lower abdomen :( 

there was no real warning and apart from appetite loss she didnt follow the pattern.

don’t assume your mum will follow the classic signs it may be like that, but like my mum it could be sudden.  It was a blessing to be honest.  It’s how she would have wanted to go, although she was looking forward to Christmas..  It still hasnt sunk in. :cry:

My heart and thoughts are with you at this awful time

Hi Katie. 

I am so sorry to hear about your Mum. My Mum was also diagnosed with Oesophageal cancer, but only in February of this year. She initially responded well to treatement but then we were told it had spread to her liver and finally her lungs. She had never wanted to know timescales, but last month she finally asked and they have given her 3 months. 

I feel that she has detiorated so quickly, which was a shock. We are now in a situation where we dont know whether she is nearing the end of her life, or her sterioid treament needs altering. We were told the dosage she had been on was far too low, so it has now been increased, but that was 4 days ago and she has shown 0 signs of improvement.

My Mum is now sleeping alot, rarely eats, is still managing fluids but is bed bound most of the time. Its been incredibly difficult and cruel to watch.

I feel our Mums may be in similar stages so i cant tell you what to expect in the future, as i am also wondering myself. I just wanted to reach out and let you know i was also going through this incase you needed to talk to anyone.

Sending you all lots of love.