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To all those who have lost their mum

31 Mar 2019 20:43

I just wanted to reach out to those who like me have lost their mum and struggle a bit on Mothering Sunday. This is my 2nd Mother’s Day without my mum. The funny thing is that my mum hated Mother’s Day!! She said it was a load of commercial nonsense and every year she told me and my sister not to bother getting her anything! She was such a character.

Doesnt make it any easier though, so sending hugs to all those with mums in heaven.

xxx

To all those who have lost their mum

31 Mar 2019 21:01 in response to Heyjude

This is my first mother's day without my mum. Lost her last July following only a 3 week battle with pancreatic cancer. Still doesn't seem real. I've had a long chat with her today and ate some of her favourite cake for tea. Sending hugs xx

To all those who have lost their mum

1 Apr 2019 09:26 in response to MelsyT

I do things like that. On her 1 year anniversary I watched 2 of her favourite films. It helps you feel closer to her doesn’t it

xxx

To all those who have lost their mum

1 Apr 2019 09:40 in response to Heyjude

Hi Hey Jude, 

Thanks for posting this. I lost my mother to breast cancer over thiteen years ago and i still miss her. 

Every now and then I can still feel her influence guiding me. 

I always feel that abit of them lives on inside of us as they have help shape the person we have become and I take comfort from that. 

Take care, Brian

To all those who have lost their mum

1 Apr 2019 11:22 in response to woodworm

That’s so true Brian. A charity came and emptied mums house today of furniture etc as new buyers move in soon so I’ve been quite sad about that, it having been the family home for 30 years. But every time I get sad I think about mum who would be saying “don’t be silly, that’s great that someone in need can make use of it”. As you say they live on in us

xxx

To all those who have lost their mum

1 Apr 2019 11:43 in response to Heyjude

Hi HeyJude,

That was one of the worst times for me, empting mums house. It made me realize I didnt know her as well as I thought for some of the things she had kept. I hadnt realized just how sentimental she was. I also felt sadgetting rid of things she had collected over the years.

I feel for you as I know its a sad time, Brian

To all those who have lost their mum

1 Apr 2019 21:00 in response to woodworm

Thankyou Brian. I’m the same. Hated having to throw out things like her old gardening shoes. I’d have kept everything if I’d room in my house! 

Thanks for sharing, it’s a comfort when others know exactly what you’re going through

x

To all those who have lost their mum

2 Apr 2019 21:39 in response to Heyjude

HeyJude, it's bittersweet not having a Mum on Mothering Sunday.  This Sunday I went to the Church service, said a prayer and left flowers in the entrance for her.  It made me feel content.  I kept all sorts of daft things, even charity shop earrings she'd bought, then the other day I went to a rock and roll fifties tea party and wore them to go with my outfit!  I remember the good times with her and try to forget the bad, happy memories are better than sad.  Thanks for posting this lovely thread.  Carol xx

To all those who have lost their mum

3 Apr 2019 09:12 in response to Dor06

Aww that’s lovely. She’ll be looking down on you, enjoying the fact that her charity shop earrings live on! My daughter loves to play with my mum’s old jewellery which is lovely to see.

Yes I think only recently have I started to slowly forget the images of the last month when she was really ill and what she looked like when I found her passed away. Those images have controlled me so many times in the last year and I feel now like it’s not fair to her to think of her in that way.

thanks for messaging back

xxx

 

To all those who have lost their mum

3 Apr 2019 13:38 in response to Heyjude

I know what you mean, it took me ages to forget seeing her being washed and laid out in front of me because no one could be bothered to ring me and tell me she was fading fast, I arrived five minutes too late.  Remember the lovely times instead, lots more good than bad.  Xx