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The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 19:56 in response to LightofHeaven00

I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mom , all too soon ... I praise the strength you have to continue . 

I lost my mom on 26-6-19 at age 61 to cancer . 6 weeks after being diagnosed she was gone ... 

the numbness as you all say lasts a long time . I don’t know if this is me dealing with the loss and greif or I’m waiting for it to kick my ass in weeks to come ! 

i cry every day , sometimes you think you can handle it then it just wipes the floor with you ! If anyone wants to talk I’m here .....

The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 23:02 in response to axxx1

Hiya axxx1,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss at such a very young age.

It's so hard to deal with and yes life is very cruel at times. I feel like there is a whole in me now that will never be filled.

It's been 2 years to the day that my mum was diagnosed and I still can't believe it. 

Very wise words about carrying on and them wanting that for us. They will always be with us in our hearts and memories.

 

The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 23:11 in response to Sasha45

Hiya Sasha45,

I'm so very sorry to hear about the passing of your mum. 

Thank you for your kind words. I completely agree about the inner strength, which I believe in a way has come from my mum.

I must admit I still can't believe it and it's been 2 years today that she was diagnosed. 

I know everyone believes different things, but i take comfort in thinking that her spirit is watching over me and your's to you.

Take care xxx

The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 23:16 in response to babyjoel

Hiya babyjoel,

Thank you for your kind words.

I still have good and bad days, but like you say it's ok not to be ok at times.

It's 2 years today she was diagnosed and it still doesn't feel real like I'm in a dream

She'll always be with me in my heart and through memories.

Take care xxx

The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 23:28 in response to LightofHeaven00

Hiya Lightofheaven00.

I am so very sorry for your loss and at a young age.

I'm glad you have a supportive family around when you need it as you are bound to think of her everyday and be sad. That won't change as it's been almost 2 years since she died and 2 years today she was diagnosed and I still think of her every day. Hopefully with time the memories will make you smile too.

I like to think she's still with me and her spirit is watching over us, but I know people believe different things.

I have thought of counselling as my sister has seen someone, but I keep putting it off. Might have a re think.

Take care xxx

The pain of losing my mum.

14 Jul 2019 23:39 in response to m3l4nie1982

Hiya m3l4nie1982,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss and at such a young age. 

Everyone is different in the way they grieve and I have to admit I feel pretty much the same as I did mostly numb. I have good and bad days. 

It's 2 years today since she was diagnosed and it still doesn't feel real.

There is no time limit to grieving. Your mum was a massive part of your life and you are always going to think of her and miss her. Hopefully with time your memories will make you smile.

Take care xxx

The pain of losing my mum.

18 Aug 2019 18:15 in response to Jolley

Hi Jolley, it is scary when you read the amount of posts from people who mirror your situation. We lost my mum on 22 June 2019 following a brave battle against breast cancer, short time in remission and diagnosis of cancer returning in liver, spine and sternum. Mum was only 61years of age. Too young like your mum. I also threw myself into work. I had only started a new job and after 17 years in my previous employment I thought it would be easier with people not knowing my situation but it feels like my world has fallen apart and the world is so cruel for putting my mum and others like her through that pain and suffering. Family and friends are so supportive and I know they are hurting too. The anger keeps me going and my daughter who is four but life without mum is such a struggle and emotional turmoil

The pain of losing my mum.

21 Aug 2019 00:46 in response to Jolley

Hi 

So sorry to hear of the passing of your mum 

My mum (50) passed away April this year , 3 month's after b3ing diagnosed with lung cancer to then be told 2 weeks later that it was terminal ....im 25 im finding it so hard to cope ... my mum was literally my best friend i turned to her about everything ...im kept busy most days but its night time that really gets to me as well as lack of sleep and as well panic attacks,  I went to the doctors about not being able to sleep feeling very down etc they suggested anti depressants but I'm not one for tablets so cruse bereavement counselling was suggested I'm start in September it's maybe something that would help? 

The world is too cruel and for me I keep thinking why couldn't it be the bad people that gets things like this...

My mum was also a nurse that helped people in their last month's/weeks/days so I find myself thinking this alot with alot of anger  questions why? Why my mum? Why so young? Such a caring person .... 

Hope this helps ❤

The pain of losing my mum.

21 Aug 2019 11:51 in response to Cmae

Hi Cmae I am so sorry for your loss. I am 38 years of age and thought even at my age it was so cruel to lose my mum so young. I think at any age we are never prepared to deal with the loss of a parent. They should be around  well into a ripe old age and not suffer something so cruel. My mum was also my best friend, my advisor, my world. The anger against the world and why someone so kind and hard working like my mum should be gone while their is badness out there also keeps me going. I hear her voice in my head imagining just what she would say to comfort me in times of need and I hope I never lose that. I hope counseling helps if anything to help you deal with panic attacks. I am also someone who doesn't take tablets and it's nice to know that your GP could refer u to counselling. My sister and brother would chat with me but everyone has their own way of dealing with things. I find the quiet of night is when I get most emotional and I bring out old photos and enjoy the memories. It never gets easier I know but am told that as hard as it sounds it does get easier to cope. Your mum would be so proud of you approaching your GP. She did such an amazing job none of us could comprehend and I understand your struggle for her to be given such an awful diagnosis after all the love and kindness she provided. Keep strong and we are always here in the thread to chat 

Alli.p

The pain of losing my mum.

21 Aug 2019 19:44 in response to Alli.P

Hiya Alli.P,

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mum and at such a young age.

You sound very similar to me as one minute I'm angry then the next crying. As you say though we have to carry on for our young ones, I have a little boy who is also four. As time has passed I have been able to smile and laugh at memories of her.

I have taken comfort from this page as although it's horrible to share such a thing, but nice that someone understands.

Take care xxx

 

The pain of losing my mum.

21 Aug 2019 19:52 in response to Cmae

Hiya Cmae,

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum and at such a young age.

It is hard to deal with and I too get angry thinking why wasn't it someome horrible that was made to suffer.

You're mum sounds like a fantastic lady who help people at the worst time of their lives. I cannot thank the nurses who helped my mum enough.

I was the same with panic attacks and I'm not one for antidepressants either. I have however just put my name down for grief counselling, so thanks for that. Hope it helps a little when you start.

Take care xxx