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Terminal cancer in family

15 Aug 2019 22:36

recently have found out my grandpa has terminal cancer 

I am very close to him and recently found my self crying a lot and no motaviatuon to go to work or do anything sometimes I don’t even know how I feel I just know it’s not me. Is this usual feelings I have never dealt with anything like this before 

Terminal cancer in family

16 Aug 2019 07:16 in response to Sarah2122

Hi Sarah, so sorry about your grandad I'm not medicley trained but I would say it's stress your worrying about him and everything else,, go to GP explain everything to them see what they say, best wishes... Billy 

Terminal cancer in family

18 Aug 2019 01:31 in response to Sarah2122

Hi Sarah. I'm sorry about your sad news. Everyone goes through things differently and there's no right or wrong way. These are the things that help me. Firstly, having a good old cry. Crying sounds obvious, but I have found that breaking down completely allows me to get it out of my system and then once it's gone I can be myself for a few hours or even the rest of the day. Secondly, telling people at work what I'm going through. It's taken the pressure off because if I'm having a bad day or my work suffers, people know that it's not just because I'm slacking. And also, listening to the inane chatter at work helps to take my mind off it a bit. Thirdly, don't be afraid to laugh! The first time I laughed a few days after learning about my mum's cancer diagnosis, I froze, like I shouldn't be laughing during this awful time! But being able to laugh has been so important. Fourthly, don't put your life on hold. Spend as much time with your grandpa as you can but still see your friends and try to do your normal everyday things. It's so important to have a strong support network around you. Also, writing in a diary has helped me. I may not want to re-read those entries in years to come, but for now it's a way of getting my thoughts out.

I would echo what Billy said though about seeing your GP just so they are aware of what's going on and they can give you some more professional advice as well.

Take care of yourself during this time.