Hi there ...so so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment.... what a journey you have both been on ...

You didn't loose your wife... she's right there tucked up safely in your heart.... you carry her with you .. and when you see your children, they are half of you both ... so there you are again ... I'm sure she would want you to carry on, and keep an eye on your children ... 

It's like a book of life ... she was a huge chapter in that book .. now you are making a new one .. a new normal .. but you can always go back and read (remember) those chapters  ... there's so many on here,going through that pain ... and a lot more will follow ... you could hold their hands too, when you feel a little stronger ...

We learn to live with our pain ... but we never stop missing them ... know your not alone ... Chrissie x

Thx for your positive reply. I know there are lots of people in my situation but its still hard not to just think of yourself at the moment i hope you can  stay as healthy and positive as possible good luck foe the future.

I can imagine how you are feeling, I lost my husband of 35 years back in June, it's a horrible experience and nobody knows until it happens to them. Part of me had died aswell, we were such a amazing partnership, I miss him every second of the day, people say it does ease, but I don't know. But just try and stay strong because that is what your wife would have wanted I am sure. 

So sorry to hear of your loss ,like you and your husband we were so close,she was my soul mate and best friend.i can't imagine ever wanting to do anything without her i feel I'm not living anymore, just existing.Take care of yourself and i hope the pain will eventually ease a little.

Yes I know excaly how you are feeling. You just want your wife back. Life has changed forever, it's difficult to think ahead. He was my best friend, I miss him so much. 
You take care of yourself. Hope these messages help a little. 

Hi Ginga,

I am so sorry for the loss of your wife I know it is so devstating. Somehow you will get through these horrible times even though it probably doesn't feel like it at present.

Please try some bereavement counselling if you feel that would help you, it isn't for everyone but I'm sure it can help. 

My wife passed away in June 2018 and I understand what you are going through, but this isn't about me.

Like you I have two grown up children and it's so hard to appear to be strong in front up them as you might feel you don't want to burden them. 

I wish you and your family all the best for the future in these terribly sad times.

Chris

Chrissie,

That was such a lovely post and something I couldn't have written. 

Chris

So sorry for your loss. I know how you are feeling i lost my husband in June to cancer he was 57 and fought hard for a year, its horrific. Part of me died too but he definatley wanted me to carry on with my life and i take one day at a time thats how i cope. It is hard but in time it should get easier.

Also sorry to hear you have suffered with the same has your wife.

take care x

Hi thanks for your reply and I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.I know people say it gets easier but I'm really struggling to come to terms with it,i loved her so much and just can't face doing anything without her.I just feel sorry for our kids who are living on a knife edge every time i go for my 6 month scan.I have registered for counselling but haven't heard anything (probably due to covid) i dont know if you have heard of this being useful?.Stay strong and good luck in rebuilding your future x

Hi, yes for you and your kids it must be so hard waiting for scan results and i hope and pray that it is good news. They will be petrified knowing that the same type of cancer has taken their mum.

Facing the world without our loved ones is dreadful. We had been together since school married for 36 yrs and did absolutely everything together. Our first grandchild came along and Ian was so excited but he wont see him grow up it breaks my heart, hes 1  next month.

I have heard that counselling does help some people so keep at them to get an appointment.

I find chatting on here to people in same circumstances helps too. 

Take care.

Debbie x