Stay Strong

I have a busy day and come home to my lovely neighbour mowing my back lawn.  I chastise him and say  I would have got round to it, he knew I was struggling and came in whilst I was out.  These kindnesses make my day.  I think hubby is not looking well and voice my concerns.   Nope he says he's fine but a little niggle tells me otherwise.   I get up this morning and he admits he's not good..  appointment at Doctors and he has another infection.  I am being picked up by a friend to go to Wynyard Hall and gardens, the day is glorious and she has the soft top down,we arrive and I look like Bridget Jones after her ride in an open top car!  We have home made cake and coffee and meander the beautiful gardens looking at the pumpkins, sweetcorn and variety of flowers.  I suddenly spot a flower that hubby and I keep seeing  on our drives and it's driving him insane not knowing its name.  A lady hears us talking, takes a photo, Googles it and walks back to tell me, it's  called the common tansy. People are so thoughtful and kind!  Back home hubby laughs at the state of my hair, saying I look like I have been pulled through a hedge backwards,  charming!!  I tell him the plants name, lovely he says and promptly falls asleep on his sheepskin in the sunny conservatory.   Hopefully the antibiotics will kick in soon, I want my normal hubby back.

  • Hi Caz Please don't take this the wrong way but why are you starting a new post everyday. Why not update us on the same thread. Good friends and neighbors are such a strength during this journey.
  • Probably because I don't know how!  Give me a clue what to do. Caz

  • Hi Carol,

    Sorry to cut in the conversation but I thought I might be able to help if you're having difficulties when replying on the same thread. 

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    But if you are still having difficulties,  just click here and send us an email, we'll be happy to try to assist you. :)

    Best wishes,

    Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

  • Thanks for that. . I will try it tomorrow.   Carol

  • Learn something new every day. If you click on the reply button to this post that will give you a start.

  • So I now know how to use the followed threads!  Pity no one told me weeks ago!!  Anyway the infection is taking its toll and hubby is not on the same planet as me!  We get in the car and his walking stick has gone missing from the four foot from front door to car door.  What have you done with it, me I didn't have it, backs to specs situation again.  We both look around the car, no sign, climb back out and lo and behold it's on the top of the hedge nestling safely in the pretty pink flowers!   Back home, handed key for front door, don't need it because he hasn't locked it, fortunately we have not been burgled!!  I'll take you to town he says but I can see my life flashing before me and decline the offer. Let's wait until the antibiotics kick in. We stay safely in the house and he sleeps the afternoon away.  

  • Hubby is not doing well with this infection and is not up to much or interested in anything.  My best friend has gone to Tenerife and we hug before she goes, she has been my rock over the last five months and I shall miss her dearly.  My younger daughter calls, she, son in law and my Harry are off to Greece for their hols and she promises that when Dad is better they want to send us a way for a break.   I don't tell her he has another infection,  spoiling her happiness would be mean.  I wish them all a lovely time,  they have busy lives and deserve the break.   We have no choice but to stay put  and it is hard.  Anyway hubby decided he would get the hospital transport for his radiotherapy,   I say a little prayer of thanks, I think four weeks of his criticism of my driving might be the straw that broke the camel's back!! Curry for tea and some chilled wine, I will miss the Spanish thriller I have watched for the past four weeks! !

     

  • I know your life is on hold during treatment you can't plan ahead. I remember going to the local coop with husband he put the shopping on the checkout then just as the girl was about to start he noticed she had a cold. He put everything back in the trolley apologize saying sorry my wife is having chemo and has to stay away from people with colds. Went to another person I didn't know wether to hide or hug him. As to the Spanish thriller can't you record it or watch it on catch up. Sending this from Austria lucky me here for a week.
  • Have a great time in  Austria , your hubby sounds great, I haven't seen anyone if they are ill! Spanish thriller finished last week,  will miss suspense until next series!  Carol

  • I am sat watching rubbish TV for a Saturday night and feeling sorry for myself when the phone rings and it's my older daughter saying can they come and stay before Dad starts radiotherapy.   Yes I say, it would be lovely to have other people here to cheer him up, especially our four year old granddaughter who is a bundle of mischief.   So more food and preparation ready for them arriving.  I have been  neglecting the house because hubby is in it so much!   He hates me hoovering around him and dusting under his nose, it's only when others are coming, you see the floating seeds that attach themselves to everything at this time of the year,  the cobwebs because we live near fields, and the dust from the now dry roads after all the rain.  So my hubby and I are looking forward to having some laughter and fun before the toll of the radiotherapy takes effect.