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Scared to lose my dad

6 Mar 2018 22:51

Hi all,

My dad has recently been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and was told today that the consultant can guarantee that he will be here for the next 6 months. 

I lost my mum when I was 13 and so my dad is all I’ve got and I absolutely adore and admire him. He’s also been like a father to my partner and he just seems to be in denial about what is happening which I am struggling with. 

I have a 4 month old baby and am so sad that she won’t know him as he is the best person that I know. 

I am really struggling at the moment with coping with the fact that I am going to lose my dad and cannot imagine life without him. I am trying to stay strong for my beautiful daughter and the rest of my family but I am breaking.

I would appreciate any advice on how to cope and what I can expect over the next few months. 

Thank you in advance x

Re: Scared to lose my dad

8 Mar 2018 23:05 in response to Cgregory

Hi Cgregory, 

I'm really sorry to read about the news your dad was given regarding his prognosis.

Many of our members here will be able to identify with the thoughts and feelings you're having at the moment having gone through the same process with their loved ones and parents and hopefully some of them will be along soon to share their advice on how to cope and what to expect over the next few months. We have some information on our website just here that you may like to look at about this as well.

I know you mentioned your little one and was wondering if you'd thought about making some home videos? They are great for making memories and will be a lovely reminder for you and your daughter of your dad.

Kind regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator