8 weeks.... ? That's ridiculous. Can you hassle them a bit? Ask if they do clinic days? Explain that you were under the impression that due to the nature of your surgery, you had assumed that the hospital would have done an immediate referral. Ask if there is anyone else that you can see for advice? Can the District Nurse help out? She may well be able to also help with supply of pads, or know how to get around the system?
Sorry for all the questions, but knowing the NHS as I do, you don't get anywhere by being passive. Sorry also that I cannot offer any better advice for you. In my experience, you have to be a bit 'pushy'.
Wouldn't you wonder how people cope with a worse level of incontinenvce following these operations? How do they manage if the person meant to be helping them is not available for 8 weeks?
There is a decided lack of interest/knowledge in men with Prostate Cancer, and related issues. I had one man tell me once that when he did see a Nurse about continence issues, she more or less told him that he was being lazy.....the mind boggles !
Try your District Nurse. Depending on where you live, depends whether you can contact her direct, or whether your GP has to arrange it. In any case, its worth a try. Go for the sympathy vote, explain how difficult it all is, say that the Continence care Nurse can't see you for 8 weeks, and that you are at your wits end....not exactly a lie, but you might get somewhere.
Best of luck, and do let us know how you get on. Always around if you want a chat about anything, or further information about anything.
Take care of yourself.
With regards and best of wishes as always