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Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 12:33

It is with great sadness that I have to tell you that our brave, brave Pauline passed away on 15th May in the hospice.  Her daughter Catherine has told me she was surrounded by her family, holding her hand.

I know that many of you on here, like me, were inspired by her great bravery and her common sense advice to others, even when she was so poorly herself. 

I have already sent my sincerest condolences to her family, but would like to do so again here.

RIP dear Pauline, you will be much missed on the forum.

Hazel x

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 13:23 in response to haze44

Hi Hazel, 

Thank you for letting us know and I would also like to offer my condolences to you and her family on her passing.

Sadly I didn't get the chance to meet Pauline4 but having read through some of her conversations and interactions with other members on the forum it is clear to see that she was a much loved and valued member of the Cancer Chat community and she will be greatly missed.

Our thoughts are with you all at this difficult time.

Best Wishes, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 14:26 in response to haze44

Hi Hazel

Such sad news about our lovely forum friend, Pauline.  Like you my thoughts are with her daughter, family and friends and hope they can draw some comfort from knowing that she is now free from pain and suffering.  She was a valued friend of the forum and very easy to chat with as well as talking to others, despite her own illness.  She will be much missed.  Be at peace Pauline you were a lovely virtual friend. Jules x 

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 15:25 in response to haze44

Hi Hazel, thanks for letting us know about Pauline. I didn't get to know her very well, but certainly did have some contact here through the forum. My condolences to her family and friends, and of course, all of her forum buddies on here.  She had a difficult time of it with this disease, and I know coming on the end, she faced some very challenging times. She is now at peace. She will be missed.


Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 16:21 in response to haze44

Just terrible isn't it she was such a lovely woman and gave such great advice to people who couldn't deal with the news of cancer. 

She will be sadly missed and I will never forget the advice she gave me when I was first diagnosed. Take care all -Diane x.  Rip Pauline xx

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 18:54 in response to haze44

Thanks Haze for letting us know about Pauline4.  We joined this forum about the same time with the same cancer, although with a similar prognosis Paulines had spread a lot more that mine. Perhaps thats why I felt an affinity with her and I loved her amusing comments.

My condolancies to her family and friends. 



Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

19 Jun 2016 19:35 in response to haze44

Hi Hazel

Thank you for passing on the sad news that Pauline has passed away. Despite being very poorly she continued to give a kind and comforting word and advice to the many who arrive on this forum. I only thought the other day I had not heard from her for a while after she went to the hospice first time round. May she rest in peace kind woman. Kim

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

20 Jun 2016 14:59 in response to haze44

Thank you for letting us know Hazel. It is with great sadness that I learned the news today that Pauline passed away. She was a much loved member of this forum and I admired her courage. I remember she posted recently and was about to go to the hospice having been really unwell and often in pain. As Hazel said, Pauline was always available to help others when she herself was going through so much. She will be deeply missed on the forum.

I am glad she was surrounded by those she loved the most and would like to send my sincerest condolences to her family.


Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

20 Jun 2016 15:18 in response to Moderator Lucie

Hi Hazel

I am so sorry to hear of another very brave lady losing her battle with cancer. Thank you Hazel for letting us all know. I send condolance to her family and all who knew her, Brian.

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

22 Jun 2016 08:46 in response to woodworm

Hello it's Catherine, Pauline's daughter. I hope you don't mind me replying to this post. I just wanted to say how lovely it has been reading your beautiful messages this morning, even through the tears they have made me smile. My mum was truly amazing! I live only 1 road from her so visited every day and although we talked about everything under the sun, cancer was one thing I did not understand, one thing I could not relate to or know what to say to make her or 'it' better! Then one day she began to talk to me about his forum and your lives. How you offered advice and how she was able to discuss her fears, something I just couldn't do with her. For all that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart. My mum was a big talker and needed to talk about it, about her future and prognosis! I will never begin to understand how she or any of you are feeling but I am glad you have each other during this time. 

I am planning to show these messages to my brother and sister as they will be overwhelmed with the lovely words you have expressed about our mum whom we miss so much it hurts. 

Much love xx 

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

22 Jun 2016 09:51 in response to Pauline4

Hi Catherine,

Thank you for your reply.

What you have written about not being able to talk to your mother about cancer explains why this forum works so well . It is far from easy to talk openly and honestly to someone we love about cancer, just as it is for them to talk to us about their fears and concerns. It is often far easier to talk to someone we may never meet.

As well as having had and recovered from prostate cancer I have lost several close members of my family to cancer, including my mother and father. I hope like me you have many happy memories of times spent with your mother for in time they do help us get over the pain of losing our loved ones.

Sending kind thoughts and best wishes to you and your family, Brian.

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

22 Jun 2016 13:09 in response to Pauline4

Dear Catherine, thanks so much for your reply, especially difficult when you are still feeling the loss of your mum so much, all of you.  She was a lovely, wise lady, so you were lucky to have her as your mum.  

I hope you have found solace in reading these tributes to her and in the realisation of how much loved and appreciated she was on here.  Your loss is also our loss, and I have cried with you, for I felt very close to your mum.  

Once again, I send my sincerest condolences to you all, and wish you all the best for the future, with lovely memories of good times with Mum. 

Hazel xxx


Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

22 Jun 2016 13:13 in response to haze44

Thank you everyone for joining me on this thread in tribute to our courageous, lovely forum friend Pauline.  As you will see from Catherine's post, it has been a great comfort to her and her family, so thank you all once again.

Hazel xx

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

22 Jun 2016 15:19 in response to Pauline4

Hi Catherine

So lovely of you to take time to respond to your Mum's virtual friends here on the forum.

I understand very well how hard it is to talk to those you love about cancer and what it means to all involved,  as I sometimes felt I was on the outside, looking in, when it was happening with my husband.  Your Mum and I definitely shared the 'need to talk' and her insights from the sufferers point of view helped me understand my husbands journey and it was a privilege to hold her virtual hand during her more difficult days. 

It is nice to know that you found some comfort on reading this thread and I hope your siblings will feel the same way during your sadest of times.  My condolences  once again on the loss of your Mum; a brave lady lost but so many memories held in your heart which you will carry with you always. Hugs  from Jules  

Pauline4, tribute to a brave lady

4 Oct 2016 00:54 in response to haze44

Just a few words to say that I am so very sorry to learn of Pauline's passing and also, that of her forum friend Meerkat@65 - it is all just so sad.


PS Whenever I hear Pachelbel's Canon I will think of you Pauline.