Hi there

you are probably not alone in the partner being the blubber, my husband was the same I was the strong positive one and he fell to pieces ! I sometimes think it takes its toll more on the partner/family , with myself ( I’m 43 now and diagnosed with breast cancer June 2016 ) I had my initial screaming crying outburst in the car on the way home from hospital as I had gone by myself then after that I thought i can’t do much about it other than facing it head on , changing diet , and being as positive as I could , I was advised a lumpectomy for a 6cm lump stage 3 with 3 lymph nodes to be removed but I was adamant I wanted a mastectomy as for me if my breast was gone so was the cancer , luckily I pushed for this with a different surgeon as another lump was found when the breast was removed ! My family was my rocks and helped nurse me through chemo as it does hit you like a truck ! My husband after the Initial few weeks was like mr google and researched so much for me was was a great help , be as hands on as you can , as even the little things can be so hard to do through her op and treatment she will have extreme fatigue and will rely on you for help with everything , wishing you both  all the luck in the world xx