Hi everyone, With the way things were going we both thought this maybe our last Christmas together so we planed to make the most of it But even that was taken away. I know it's only been a few days since I lost my loving wife & bestfriend but the way I feel at the minute I really don't know if I'll cope. I have a great family supporting me but I just feel so lost, Pete
Hi Pete, sorry to hear your very sad news, I lost my beautiful mum in Feb this year to Metastatic Breast Cancer, she was only 56 and this will be our first Christmas without her. I know exactly how you feel, I often wish my dad was on this site because he would probably find it really helpful to be in contact with people like yourself and vice versa.
I’m sorry I don’t have any amazing words of advice for you but as only the tiniest amount of time has past, how you are feeling right now is completely normal and you are entitled to feel however you like, don’t try to put on brave face if it’s exhausting, cry if you want to cry, stay at home if you want to.
I am not looking forward to Christmas at all but I know my mum would be pretty annoyed if we didn’t do anything at all, all the big occasions (Mother’s Day, birthdays etc) have a horrible build up. Just try and think what would your lovely wife like you to do on Christmas Day? She’s watching from up there so im sure she would like something nice to watch!
That is such a lovely picture of you and your wife, my thoughts are with you.
Hi again Pete. How you feel is normal and lots of people on this website will have had to suffer the same tragic loss of their life partner. The joy you had with your wife was a wonderful thing even though you have eventualy had to suffer so much pain. I don't understand why we are programmed in this way - to love and then to lose the special person - but I do believe that we would not want to have missed the great joy even though the pain seems unbearable at the moment for you. I know I am rambling a bit but life is a mystery to me sometimes. Please keep on chatting here as long as you want to do so. Lots of people here know what you are going through. Don't worry too much about Christmas - it will come and it will go. Just be kind to yourself. It sounds as though you have good family support so they will doubtless do their best to see you through this difficult period. Please accept a written hug. .
Yes, Christmas is such a sad occasion for you this year. I have never had to go through such grief. I cannot begin to imagine what it must be like. They say it gets better over time, but that will be scant comfort to you today. I wish you every strength at this terrible time. Harry
Oh Pete, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Nothing I say at the moment will make you feel better, but please know that I am thinking of you and hope your pain will ease with time.
God bless, Hazel xx
My heart goes out to you, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. There is never a good time to lose your partner, but it does seem all the worse when everyone else is in the Christmas spirit, just take heart from the other replies, your lovely wife would have wanted you to try to make the most of things. Hugs to you xx