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Tilly45
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My Dad fighting stage 4 cancer diagnosis in December of the unknown primary! He had 5reatments of radiotherapy finished end of January. 

I’m his youngest Daughter, very close to my dad... In the last 2 weeks his condition as deteriorated he’s at home with palliative care..

He lives with my mum she’s wonderful keeping everything ticking over... I have been looking at this site since December and I have read amazing stories on how families deal with this terrible illness..

I just want to say I hope & pray for all the people who are affected with this illness and their loved ones will find comfort. This site has helped me loads I don’t know  why but reading others personal journals give me a little bit of comfort.... 

I know my dad does not have long left now I truly hope we will be able to meet again one day!

Thanks to everyone that has taken the time to read this.

 

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    I lost my dad in September to this cruel disease and I’mm still trying to get over the loss. I don’t feel like the same person as it does take a piece of yourself away with them. 

    Forever grateful to the NHS, Macmillan and our local hospice. What a wonderful job they do. 

    Sending love to you, your mum and your dad x

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    Thanks for your reply Beebee79.. it’s such a terrible illness for all involved. I agree with you since my dads diagnosis I also feel like a part of me is missing. Seeing my dad at home in the hospital bed breaks my heart..

    The support from the NHS and our local GP has been fantastic like you I will be forever grateful.

    Just remember our Dads wouldn’t want us upset and dwelling on the illness. My approach at this difficult time is to focus on all the happy memories and practice mindfulness. 

    Hope you will be ok Beebee79 

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    My dad is in the same position at the moment he was diagnoised last july with a tumour on his lung and we have since been told its on his spine and liver aswell. hes undergoing treatment and although we know its terminal we have been told its probably around 2 to 4 years. im finding it so hard at the moment to stay positive though everyone around me including my mum and brother are dealing with it like its not happening or that theres a cure and i totally understand thats how they need to be for them selves but i cant help feel like we should be planning things and making the most of it all. my dad has sat me down and told ne what he wants to happen after he passes and to me i feel that i should now start accepting it could be sooner then we think and maybe start greiving in a way?? im not to sure where this post is going but just writting it out kind of helped... and reading other posts to! sending love to your family x
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    My Dad passed on the 5th March. I feel so sad, I remained positive in front of him but like you I knew it wasn’t good news. I started greiving as soon as I found out.. it’s very hard to understand but you will find the strength to deal with this. My Dad never talked to any of us about what he wanted to happen after he passed I don’t think he accepted the situation. I find that hard to deal with, he was so positive throughout this short illness.

    Thanks for replying to me Jess. If you ever want to chat about this nightmare just message me.. Dads & Daughters have a special bond so my advice to you, is to enjoy every moment with your Dad. 

    Take care of yourself ️

     

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    Tilly, I am so sorry to hear about your dad and I wish I cam across this thread before he passed. My dad also has cancer of unknown primary. I loved that you said you hope you meet again one day because I think the same way! I know when my dad passes that it's not goodbye forever. I feel we will see each other again. (: I hope you and your family are doing well and I'll pray that it gets easier for you everyday. 

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    Thank you Cass for your kind words, it’s not a nice situation for anybody involved.. But I have faith I’ll see him again one day.. My Brother said to me he thinks he had some signs of my Dad since his passing I’m still waiting for mine.. But everyone I have spoken to from his GP to the funeral director believe there is something after we pass! So speaking to these professionals have helped me a lot.. I’m so sorry to hear about Dad enjoy the time with your Dad..hopefully they’ll be able to offer treatment to relieve the pain so he has a good quality of life...

    Take Care 

    Tilly

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    Thank you and I hope you get a sign from your dad. I think it's always nice knowing you're being watched over. (:

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    Happy Fathers Day Dad!

    I miss you  

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    My First Birthday without you Dad.. So many Happy Memories of you. Miss you  

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    My husband is also fading fast.  He to is on palatine care at home! and I agree it does help to know your not alone people out there are going through similar and do understand 

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