hi sorry to hear this ...my mum also is dieing of cancer and she has not got long so i no how you are feeling it is not a good place to be but all you can do is spend as much time as you can with her and tell her you love her xxx

Many thanks for reaching out to me while you are going through the same thing. Just knowing someone else is going through this helps. Do you mind me asking are you finding anything that helps you? 

It's been quite a while since my mum died. I was 27. She'd just had her 57th birthday three days beforehand, ten days after we learned she was terminal. 

I held on to the fact she would rather it were her in that position than me. When I later had my own children, that just made it ring more true. A mum will always choose to go first, and for their child to carry on. 

Shock does weird things to people. You may think you can't cope, but you will. It doesn't matter whether you're with her at the end or not. That's your decision. As it happens, my sister held mum's hand, I was at the end of the bed. Dad chose to step out. We never spoke about it afterwards. I'm honestly not sure it made any difference to mum in what was a peaceful ending. Mum had spoken  previously about attending funerals, and didn't feel it was disrespectful to not be present. I did go, and found it ...natural. 

You will only ever lose your mum once. One time in life. That's what I held on to. Yes, there will be other losses. There will be lots of adjustments to be made. Your mum helped make you the person you are. She would want you to do whatever feels right.You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. 

regards, gamechanger

Hello, 

I am so so sorry to hear of your situation, i lost my mum 6 months ago, she was 43 and i am 17. It is so unfair and you must be feeling so lost right now. I remember the week she died i completely lost track of time and didnt know what was happening. All i can say is spend as MUCH time with her as possible. Love her as much as you can and dont stop hugging her, It is important to make her last month as comfortable as possible. I know this must be so hard to hear but you are strong and if i can get through this then anyone can xx keep in tough and sending you a giant hug :) millie. xx

I can feel your pain entirely, my dad has to be seen by nurse this morning and she said with how quick his health is deteriorating he could have just days.  Breaking apart inside but I think I’m hiding it quite well