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Re: My Journey Continues

17 Jan 2015 16:48 in response to sueanne

Hi Sueanne

Yes all to do with mesothelioma and the doctor who confirmed death did not tick the box to refer to coronor!!

I mentioned this at the registration but was told it was all okay and walked away with certificates thus carrying on all the usual tasks. Needless to say the coronor was finally consulted when hubby's GP was checking paperwork for filing and found discrepancy which started the ball rolling.The rest as you would say is history but led to a very distressing day for me and the children. The necessary procedures will follow after Monday's celebration of hubby's life.  He will lay in chapel until such time as the law allows (but otherwise all remains as planned).   There will be time for investigations into the failures of the proffesionals but it is not now.

Have had children/grandchildren here  most of the day and tomorrow I will prepare the home for Monday's gathering before the service.  Feel so peaceful now - think I am all bawled out for a bit - and planning some quiet reflective time.  Thank you for being a reader/responder- so many good folk here.

Hugs returned Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 17:05 in response to jules54

to all my great forum buddies your responses and kind thoughts mean so much and all is quiet here now so I shall have some reflective time.  Tomorrow I have time to prepare heart and home in readiness for Monday's  'Celebration of hubby's life' and hope his journey will be as dignified in death as it has been in life.

 

Time to sort the 'whys and wherefors in due time' but answers will be required so no one else has to go through such distress at time of grief when it could so easily have been avoided.  Hey ho, we all make mistakes; as they say 'to err is human'. Enjoy the rest of your weekend whatever you may be up to. Kind thoughs and hugs   Jules xx

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17 Jan 2015 17:43 in response to jules54

Well Jules Im so glad all sorted now but what a worry for you and your family at this very difficult time ..When Tony died our Gp was hereat our home as were macmillan nurse and district nurse ,a few mins after he had gone the Gp said she had to inform the coroner and the police had to come because mesothelioma is  an industrial desease within mins they came and took Tony to our Hospital in Truro he was there for 2 days the coroner said no need for a PMbecause his consultant said mesothelioma was the cause and an inquest was opened and ajourned until a later date which was 11 months later It was just read out and no questions ..I didnt get death certificate until then they had given me interim certificates to do all the things that needed to be done ie bank solicitor and things but all this made a difficult time harder on us all ,it was like a nighmare ,and all because  of  the mesothelioma sorry to babble on but needed to explane ,but it gets better in the end ...Jules im sending love and hugs for you all xxxxxxxSueanne
 

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17 Jan 2015 19:55 in response to jules54
Hi Jules, I will be thinking of you on Monday, xxxxx love Kerrie xxxxx

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17 Jan 2015 20:53 in response to jules54
Oh Julie's I wanted to say I'm so sorry for the loss Of your dear husband. I've not been on hear for a while and have Only just caught up with your thread, I will be thinking of you and your lovely Family on Monday, I'm sure you will Do your hubby proud.

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17 Jan 2015 22:12 in response to jules54

Hi Jules,

I am so glad that someone had their sensible head on. Your undertaker did a good job there. At least you will get to celebrate your husbands life as and when you planned.  I will be thinking of you tomorrow and on Monday, and pray that all goes as you would wish.

hugs Annabel. xxxxx

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17 Jan 2015 22:26 in response to sueanne

Thanks for letting me know how it went for you and I know how difficult it must be for you to recall the hardest time in your life. Just need to stay 'in the day' and honour my man.  Kids have been amazing in their courage and we will continue to support each other.  Our contact at the funeral directors deserves a medal - its the first time they had to deal with this particular situation and she will continue to be our go between in sorting our the formalities that follow  in the weeks ahead.

Zack experienced his first outing in the snow today (did not last long but grandchildren loved seeing it).Children staying here overnight Monday so have readied spare rooms.  Hubby's siblings came over from Isle of Man Thursday evening and it looks as though it will be the funeral before I see them as no contact as yet.. His brother and sister in law go back day after funeral and his sister is planning on catching up with old workmates the day afterwards and then returning too.

Well, a few more bits to do before getting some shut eye and an early start tomorrow at the launderette following by my usual Sunday  morning stroll(first Farmers'market of the New Year to drop in at).

Hope all is well with you and the family. Take care Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 22:27 in response to sueanne

Thanks for letting me know how it went for you and I know how difficult it must be for you to recall the hardest time in your life. Just need to stay 'in the day' and honour my man.  Kids have been amazing in their courage and we will continue to support each other.  Our contact at the funeral directors deserves a medal - its the first time they had to deal with this particular situation and she will continue to be our go between in sorting our the formalities that follow  in the weeks ahead.

Zack experienced his first outing in the snow today (did not last long but grandchildren loved seeing it).Children staying here overnight Monday so have readied spare rooms.  Hubby's siblings came over from Isle of Man Thursday evening and it looks as though it will be the funeral before I see them as no contact as yet.. His brother and sister in law go back day after funeral and his sister is planning on catching up with old workmates the day afterwards and then returning too.

Well, a few more bits to do before getting some shut eye and an early start tomorrow at the launderette following by my usual Sunday  morning stroll(first Farmers'market of the New Year to drop in at).

Hope all is well with you and the family. Take care Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 22:31 in response to Kezzaroo

Thanks Kerrie, how kind of you to take the time to post me when you have your own difficulties.  Hope  you have love and support around you too.  Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 22:34 in response to Mylittlesunshine

Seeing your post on my thread and also to dear Max just reminds me how brave everyone on this forum is. Hope the difficulties you are having can be helped at your appointment on Monday and thank you for your kindness. Let us know, when you can, how you are progressing.  Sending hugs  Jules x 

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17 Jan 2015 22:39 in response to Annabel

Thanks for your kind words and thoughts Annabel. Hope you are keeping well and not too busy with the cottages. Currently watching Bridget Jones Diary (forgot I was going to try for an early night!!!) and hoping for a good walk in the morning to blow the cobwebs away!  Sending hugs and hope all well with the family.  Hugs Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 22:48 in response to GARF

Hope you soon have improving news on Hannah, Garf and thanks for your  kind words.Grieving is taking various turns as you would expect but family being mutually supportive and we will journey through the ups and downs together.  Coping mechanism seems to include good food and treats accompanied by great friends and family and continued support of my forum buddies, not forgetting the joy and laughter that the little ones bring when they are visiting.  Have bought eldest a new 'Spiderman quilt cover as a surprise for his over-nighter *suspect the kinder egg will get a better reception ha ha.

Will take the warm words of the forum with me as I 'manage Monday'.  Take care and make the most of your day off.  Hugs Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 22:54 in response to Hope23

Thanks Hope for being there as a forum buddy when am sure you have plenty to keep you busy just now.Last couple of days have been pretty tense but had lovely day with children/grandchildren for company and we are 'doing our own things' tomorrow. Keeping busy seems to help but am also taking time for me to relax (had manicure and hair done yesterday so at least I look human even if I do not necessary feel tip top!!

Take care  and sending hugs your way. Jules x

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18 Jan 2015 08:33 in response to jules54
Dearest Jules, I know you are having a quiet day of reflection today, but just wanted to say that you and your family will be very much in my thoughts tomorrow. Sending you the biggest hug, lovely lady, much love, Jo xx

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18 Jan 2015 10:10 in response to Meerkat@65

Good morning Jules,

They really have been putting you through it haven't they!

If there was anything you didn't need right now it's a mistake made by someone you have never met causing you extra heart ache.  Pleased for you that things have been sorted and tomorrow is back on track, although without the curtains!

It's a little strange to think that last night we were both watching the same film at the same time.  Bridget Jones' diary was something Mrs G wanted to put on but I did quite enjoy it actually.  Unfortunately there is still no news on Hannah.  They are now trying to pin it to some kind of infection but again, because it is now the weekend, there are no doctors to see her until next week.  >:)

You know I will be with you tomorrow.

Garf. xxxx