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Re: My Journey Continues

16 Jan 2015 07:28 in response to LorraineD

Hi Lorraine

Nice to hear from  you and hope your recover is continuing.

Thank you for your kind thoughts and words.  Feel very much as though I am a 'robot going through the motions' but am pleased to say that all necessary official notifications as regards late hubby are completed to the best of our ability.  The children continue to keep me company where  necessary (extra pair of ears/thoughs very  helpful).  Gp is happy I am managing and sees me again after I return to work.

Monday had seemed a long time away until now!  The celebration of his life is to be well attended and I will be seeing people who had 'known, worked with and loved him' over many years. No doubt more emotional fallout (only to be expected and managed of course). My six year old grandson summed it up beautifully 'A party for Grandad - why when he cannot be there?Sad' - the wonderful innocence of childhood.  We have spent some time with him looking through old photo albums (and envisage doing it some more as it raised lots of laughs). 

The final goodbye is a hard day ahead but my heart is full of memories (42 years long) which I am hoping will carry me forward into a 'different normal'.  The forum has been and am pretty sure will remain part of my coping mechanism.

Sending peaceful thoughts for you and yours.  Jules x

Re: My Journey Continues

16 Jan 2015 13:07 in response to jules54

Dear Jules ,I hope grandson goes on ok ,but trying to keep a 6 year  old quiet and still is unheard of ha ha ..I will be thinking of you on Monday and im sure lots of tears will be shed just let them flow ,after 40 plus years its to be expected so let them flow ..Thinking of you and big hugs sent ...Sueanne Xx

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16 Jan 2015 20:52 in response to jules54

Hi there Jules,

I share Brian's admiration of you and the way you are coping with things up to now.  You mentioned how Monday seemed a long way off but now it is almost upon you I at least have some small understanding of the fear and nerves you are no doubt feeling as it gets nearer. 

I am off work on Monday so I will be at home trying to relax, and no doubt failing, but I will also be joining everyone here in thinking of you during that day and sending love and hugs to a very special person.

Lots of love to you Jules for Monday and always.

Garf. xxxxx

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16 Jan 2015 23:16 in response to jules54

Hi Jules,

Like Brian, I admire the way you are coping and am pleased that your legal advice was straightforward. I will be thinking of you on Monday as you have the celebration of hubby's life.  I truly hope that your spirit continues to help you continue coping as well as you have, but rest assured that your forum buddies will always be here for you whatever the days may bring.  Take care.  Hope xx

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16 Jan 2015 23:26 in response to Hope23

Jules, thank you for your thoughtful message on my thread. It is so lovely of you to be thinking of others whilst going through so much yourself - you are a truly inspirational lady who many care for deeply. I will be thinking of you on Monday, and always x

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17 Jan 2015 07:46 in response to max56

Hi all

Will keep this short but cannot get my head round what I am about to say. Yesterday I was told that due to 'a mistake' between two departments when hubby's death confirmed/registered (is this not two separate 'clangers')Angry. We can only hold a memorial service on Monday (and may not have hubby present Cry) with his final journey being delayed until legalities completed.DEVASTED Jules

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17 Jan 2015 08:06 in response to jules54

Oh Jules,

My heart goes out to you that this shoud happen, especially at such at late stage which gives no chance of getting things sorted out due to the weekend. I really do feel for you and your family, Brian

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17 Jan 2015 08:31 in response to jules54
Dear Jules, this is the last thing you need. Should the funeral directors not have picked up on this earlier or the govt depts involved??? My heart goes out to you honey. Kathy xxx

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17 Jan 2015 08:56 in response to jules54

Dear Jules,  I am so so sorry to read your latest post.  I can't imagine how you and your family must be feeling.  I'm lost for words as to why this should happen and how departments whose job it is to deal with registering deaths can make this blunder. I sincerely hope that there is some way to try and sort this out over the weekend. My heart goes out to you and your family.  Do let us know how you are when you are able.  Hope xx

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17 Jan 2015 09:22 in response to jules54

Jules,

I am so sorry to hear of ths official blunder by derpartments who are supposed to be so proffessional. The impact on you and your family can be devastating. I too am surprised the problem didn't show itself before now. Take care of yourself hun and if necessary chat to your helpful GP, as in putting her in th picture. 

Sending all supportive hugs

Annabel. xx

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17 Jan 2015 10:06 in response to Annabel

Oh guys thank you for you kindness.  Wanted to share this with us a.s.a.p.  Our funeral director has been amazing and has just rung to say everything will appear as normal on Monday.  Due to a powercut (can you believe this) the curtains will not be able to be closed but everyone will be able to say their personal goodbyes however they wish. Tears of joy here (and relief).  This phone call arrived just as first snowflakes began to fall - he is watching over me still. Jules x

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17 Jan 2015 10:25 in response to jules54

Oh Dear Jules I dont know what to say ,how dreadful for this to happen ,you have been coping so well too,  you must be devastated Jules I wondered if its anything to do with hubbys cancer Mesothelioma being an industrial illness I would like to explain what happened in our case as you know Tony had the same cancer because of this it can cause a few problems in the early days ,I so wish I could pm you to explain in detail .My heart goes out to you lovely lady ....Hugs sent ...Sueanne Xx

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17 Jan 2015 10:45 in response to jules54

Oh Jules,

I am so pleased the problem has been resolved and well done for your funeral director for getting it sorted. You certainly didnt deserve to have that crop up at this late stage and must have been so disstressing both for you and your family. I just want to say I will be thinking of you all on Monday as you celebrate you dear Hubbies life. Take care brave lady, sending big hugs, Brian,

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17 Jan 2015 11:45 in response to jules54
Oh Jules, thank goodness it has been resolved to some extent. You will carry yourself beautifully on Monday, with great dignity. Your man will always be watching over you and yours, no doubt about that honey. I have a feeling you will be a rock to others supporting them, because that's the kind of lady you are. We love you Jules, Kathy xxx

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17 Jan 2015 12:46 in response to jules54

Hello Jules ,so glad things have been sorted and you can go ahead with arangements I can surely believe the tears of joy ..Hubby will always be with you in your heart and memory and I will be thinking of you and your family and know the feeling only too well Love and Hugs ...Sueanne Xx