Sorry to be reading this post. Can I ask what type of cancer your father has? How is he at the moment in himself?
I'm in the same position as you. My dad's 65 but was diagnosed at 63 with stage 4 bowel cancer which spread to the lungs and liver. In April we found out its now gone to his brain and then in May we found out he's got a mass behind his left eye. He is terminal and is at home. His care is classed as 'hospice at home.' My mum can be very open at times but then other times she doesn't want to hear the negative and gets angry. It's the worst thing ever losing some one you love and it's so hard having to sit back and watch them deteoriate from who they were to the person they are now. Take each day as it comes and keep talking to him letting him know what he means to you. Even if you think he's sleeping or can't hear you, still talk to him.
Hi there .., I'm also 63 with breast cancer ... I've got little 5 year old granddaughter daughter who is my life an the thought of leaving her makes me cry ... But I've heard the hospice polisy is to make every day count an pack as many happy days which will give you lovely memories to treasure ... So I've made a memory book with all the times we shared ... If you can find the strength and I'm sure he will always be around you from up there ... I lost both my mum and dad and l know they are close and l can't wait to see them again ... So big hug an thinking of you x
