My dad was diagnosed in February with incurable pancreatic cancer it has spread to his liver. I live near my mum & dad and my one sibling my brother lives 140 miles away. I have a really tough job 2 kids and a mega busy life and am finding it hard to support my mum. She is struggling to deal with my dads deteriorating psychological state. His symptoms are that he has got a very swollen abdomen which is uncomfortable. He is on Oxycodone slow release tablets 15mg twice a day. He is having palliative chemotherapy. My dad is 73 and my mum is 70. They have run their own business for 40 years and still work now. My husband has recently taken over the business so that is taking the strain off my parents. I am dreading what is to come, the deterioration. It's heartbreaking. What are your experiences of this dreadful disease?
Hi my mum 67 was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer in June 2015, with mets to liver. Prognosis was bleak - she could not have surgery and was placed on pallative chemo. After 9 rounds of pallative chemo mets had disappeared from her liver and the Tumor had shrunk by 80% - to date it has laid dormant - but to us dormancy is as good as remission. We take each day a step at a time. Some are positive and upbeat - some are the pits - but remember all you can do is try your best - I have told my story as we come on here looking for hope and inspiration X - forgot to add - I live near my mum - she still works fulltime and my brother lives far away - you will find strength x
Hi my mum was diagnosed in Dec with pancreatic cancer that had spread to her liver,she was fitted with a stent from her liver which stopped the jaundice and the acid build up. She decided not to have chemo as she wanted to enjoy her remaining time and was advised it wouldnt really give her much more time. Since then she has lost weigh and felt in pain from trapped gas ,but since going on a small dose of steriods 4 weeks ago she has stopped losing weight and is eating normal again and has lots of energy,she doesnt have any pain. she has a very positive attitude which i believe is whats keeping her going.We have all talked openly about the cancer and her death,and she has sorted eveything out concerning life after she has gone. She is 70 and my dad has supported her with all her wishes.my brother lives far away so i try and spend as much time as i can with them .
My dad has just been diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. It spread to dudenom and liver. He had an internal bleed and we nearly lost him but docs saved his life that’s before the diagnosis. Possibly starting chemo next week but naturally he’s worried about side effects as all the family are. He was such an outdoorsy out all the time person. Hes understandably depressed and finding it difficult. Life has been turned upside down in 3 weeks. Trying to stay positive and looking for peoples experiences. My brother and I visit often. I’m unsure what the prognosis is and not really sure I want to know he already survived the odds, so we know he’s strong
hi, this is the most positive thing I have read reguarding pancreatic cancer, my dad was diagnosed December (2018) and starts his first round of chemo today, is your mothers still dormant ? Xx
My mum passed away is October,It was very quick,she wasnt in pain and only went down hill a couple of days before she passed. She was at home and still talking to us an hour before she died.
kind regards xx
I’m so very sorry for your loss, im so glad she wasn’t in any pain and pasted peacefully. My dads chemo has been postponed as he developed jaundice the morning he was due to start and had the stent put in the following day, we are waiting for the date to start chemo we just want time as much time as possible with him it’s so devastating sending lots of love your way and I’m sure your mom is with you in spirit xxxx
hi, did you dad start the chemo ? I can completely relate to this my dad was diagnosed dec (2018) and is yet to start chemo, I feel they are not in any hurry and it’s very frustrating as we want the opportunity to keep him here as long as we can he is desperate to start xx
Sadly my Dad passed away on 18 jan 19 after being diagnosed on 01 nov 18. Dad spent half of the time in hospital and was never well enough for chemo. We got to spend Xmas with him thankfully. He spent his last week in a hospice and the daily decline was rapid. Such a cruel debilitating painful disease. I am currently raising money for Pancreatic research. Trying to make a difference.
bless you for raising money I have also been thinking of ways to raise money for research it really is a cruel disease, my dad is only 55 and I honestly don’t know how we will cope without him he is so loved, I’m so sorry for your loss xxx
I’m so sorry you are going through this too, your poor Dad it’s truly awful. We feel like we have been robbed, Dad was only 67. I created a just giving page and we had the funeral on wed just gone and we shared the details with our friends and family and also had a donation box. It makes me feel like I’m doing something. Dad was so loved there were so many family and friends celebrating Dads life, he would have been in his element. I would also like to run a half marathon this year and raise money that way when my heads a bit straighter.
I understand what you’re going through, it’s so very tough.