Mum has secondary cancer.New here

Hi. Im not really sure what to put here but trying to get as much support as possible I guess. My mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer a few weeks ago. She had primary breast cancer in 2015. She had been really unwell prior to diagnosis, and since being admitted to hospital, including developing sepsis whilst in hospital. 

Still waiting for a plan regarding her cancer, including treatment options, as she has kidney failure due to the cancer. Along with other medical issues, it's looking like her options will be quite limited, just hoping we don't get told there is no treatment suitable for her!!

I just can't seem to take it all in still, like I'm on autopilot!! I have so much going on in my head due to my mum being so unwell. I can barely think straight most of the time, everything is jumbled up! That, and trying to be a mum to 3 young children, is exhausting me.

Never did I think I'd be in this situation, ever! My mum being this unwell!

I don't know what i expect to gain from posting here but the more support I can find, the better I suppose!

 

Thanks for reading x 

  • Hello....I've just joined today,I'm in a similar position as you...my mum,72years,was diagnosed just 7weeks ago in hospital after she was admitted for falling out of bed! Now she is home on palliative care...bed bound...detiorating fast...I can't get my head around it either!!! I was told the lung cancer was too advanced for a cure...so a comfortable death is her only option...I'm her only daughter, I'm 52....I gather you are much younger? All I can offer you is...you don't think its possible to find strength to cope...but you do...and you will get stronger as time goes by.

  • I'm the same!! My mum got diagnosed with secondary liver cancer today. We don't know where the other cancer is she's going for a scan in 2 weeks to find where the other cancer is. It isn't sinking in. I'm trying not to freak out.