Hi all, like most on here, I don't really know what I'm asking or trying to achieve however, I feel that I need to share my story and seek how best to deal with and try to enjoy the last weeks/months with my dad through others experiences.
In Sept 2017 my mum passed away ages (55) from Bowel cancer which spread to her liver. Previous to this in 1999, she was diagnosed with breast cancer and not given very long, this being said she smashed another nearly 18 years of life enjoying life with her family and friends before it finally 'got her'.
Shortly after my mum passed away in Sept 2017, my dad was experiencing prostate cancer symptons. In Jan 2018 (4-5 months later), he was diagnased with termial prostate cancer ages 54. We were told that there is no time scale as it's early doors but 'we'll try and get you to the ages of 60', we were told; The heartake of losing my mum was bad enough, but have to go through it all over again, whilst only having 4 months to grieve over my mum, the rock of the family, in the short space of time, was unthinkable.
Since Jan 2018 life has been hectic; it's had its up and down. As I write this, I've found out that my dad has hit rock bottom, this week. The cancer is now everywhere (bones, chest, neck, lungs, ribs, pelvis, leg) and is causing him nothing but pain; his pelvis cracked a few weeks back and not the cancer in the rib bones as causing much distress. He's contacted a family friend who works in the NHS asking for help as he can't take it anymore; I feel that this could be the start of what will inevitable happen :shocked:
Once all the above settles down and maybe his pain relief is adjusted so that he's more comfortable, I would like to plan a few things to spend time with him and enjoy whatever life he has left. I also have a 4yr old girl and a 8month old boy (that think the world of him) and I would also like them to create some memories together too. This being said, with his cracked pelvis and body riddled with cancer, the things we can do are very limited.
Could anyone suggest anything that we could do together as a family to help turn this difficult time around please?
