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loss of my dad

23 Oct 2020 02:04

I'm finding it incredibly hard to deal with the loss of my father he died April 12th 2020. i had stopped seeing him due to covid but had seen him that day as he put Easter eggs on doorstep for us he looked fine at half 6 in evening I went to work at 10pm that night and by 11 30 my life had been shattered if missed a call off my daughter and phoned her bk and my partner answered and told me my dad was dead. i got cover at work.picked my mom up and took her to my house . he had cancer but didn't really speak about how bad it was or nothing me and my dad were so close. i went to see him in morgue but couldn't even touch him or kiss him I feel robbed of that because of the covid. i just want him bk and people to understand I'm not coping just before his funeral in June I got offered a new house and my daughter got pregnant by her abusive

partner we moved my daughter miscarried and we had to keep getting police out cos of threats from her ex partner I feel in all this my grief has been forgotten about like no one cares anymore

loss of my dad

25 Oct 2020 10:29 in response to pinky13

Hello pinky13, 

I am  so sorry for your loss - how devastating that your dad died so suddently and how touching that he had put Easter eggs on your doorstep just before. It must have been such a traumatic evening, an evening when it sounds like you had to sort everything out and since then you have had to deal with so many other issues and have had to protect your daughter. As you said with all that happening and you having to be there and keep on top of everything, it sounds like you haven't really had time to yourself to grieve properly. 

There is information on this page on Coping with Grief which will highlight the complex emotions involved in the grieving process. It might be worth getting in touch with your GP and mentioning that you are struggling to cope at the moment. I am sure your doctor will have some excellent suggestions for you to help you get through this difficult time. I hope that you have supportive friends and family around you and that you will also meet others here who have been through this before and that they will come and share their story with you.  We're all here for you anytime you need to chat.

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

loss of my dad

26 Oct 2020 01:39 in response to Moderator Lucie

thank u so much Lucie for your reply to be honest I don't know how to cope with it i feel like im just going through motions in life I'm drinking too much to not feel anything