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I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 11:32

Hi everybody. I haven't been able to post on here for a while now because every time I've tried, I've written it all out, clicked on post and nothing happens.

I got told  just over a week ago now (5th July) that my cancer is terminal and I've got 6 - 9 months left maximum. I'm trying to deal with it in the best way I can but at the same time, I can't believe that it's happened. 

I'm just trying to make sure that I make the most of every day now because I know that time is very precious. 

 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 13:11 in response to Beingme45

Do you want to start again or continue where we finished, remember you could have a long time yet but pain wears you out, it can make you feel a lot worse,,. Don't think to far ahead take a day at a time, but don't forget to pay the bills, keep looking after yourself,,. Best wishes.

Billy 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 13:25 in response to Beingme45

Hi @Beingme45 ‍ 

I must confess that i read this earlier and just didn't know how or what to say to you so i said nothing but i went away trying to busy myself from my own worries but kept thinking of you and how i would feel if i had recieved that news and was looking for support so i have come back albeit with no words of wisdon but just to at least acknowledge you and to let you know that i am filled with sorrow for you and shame for me. 

Not one of us regardless of whether we receive that news that we dread, the news that you have received knows if we will still be here next week let alone in 6 months time but i sincerely hope that you have loved ones, be it family, friends or collegues that you can share your time with and you can laugh or cry or talk or have a hug with. 

You do seem to have the right attitude when you worte about making the most of your time left and making those moments precious and i hope that you can manage to do that.

Stay strong my lovely:

                                             

 

 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 15:25 in response to Beingme45

Hi

didnt want to read and run. I’ve not seen your posts before but just had a quick catch up - you really have been through a lot and my heart breaks for you. 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 15:50 in response to Beingme45

Hi there,

I'm so sorry you have received this news. 

I can see from your previous posts you are very young (and your girlfriend is pregnant).

Is there a clinical trial or anything you could try? Seeing another specialist?

As others have mentioned prognoses are a bit of a guessing game and I really hope this one doesn't turn out to be accurate. 

Again, I am so sorry. 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 16:41 in response to Kajena

Yes thank you @Billygoat ‍ I am just taking it one day at a time. 

No worries @Puddle-Jumper ‍ I appreicate your reply and thank you so much for your kind words. Yes I've just got to take it one day at a time. Yes my family are amazing and I'm very lucky to have them. I lot of my friends I'm unable to see but I keep in touch with work friends a lot and they have been a huge help to me. 

Thank you for your kind words @Magpiemaggie ‍ . I appreicate it

Unfortunatly @Kajena ‍ me and my girlfriend aren't together anymore. We split up nearly a month because she couldn't cope with me being ill. Also she is no longer pregnant because a few months ago, we were advised to have an abortion. 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 18:28 in response to Beingme45

I'm sorry about that too. I hope you have good people around you. 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

14 Jul 2019 18:42 in response to Beingme45

So sorry about you and your girlfriend,, hope you live a good life, and best wishes for the future. 

Billy 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

21 Jul 2019 19:13 in response to Beingme45

Hi Beingme, 

I know you are very scared and worried at this moment, even terrified, but I just thought I would tell you I was diagnosed with terminal  stage 4 lung cancer, liver cancer and cancer in spine in September 2018, told them did not want to know prognosis, it is now 10months after diagnosis,  I look an d feel absolutely fine. Just keep fighting. Sending you a big hug. If ever you want to chat please don't hesitate to contact me, I know what you are going through. Love Jenx

I've been told my cancer is terminal

21 Jul 2019 19:36 in response to Saiyanandcookie

Hi Jen, thank you so much for your kind words. 

Yes to be honest with you, I am utterly terrified. It's good that you look and feel fine though despite your news. You sound like a very strong lady!

Take care 

I've been told my cancer is terminal

22 Jul 2019 09:06 in response to Beingme45

Hi Beiing45

Do not think you are not strong, you are not strong. You have cancer and you are living with it day by day, and that makes you one of the strongest people I know.  I have been where you are at present, not sleeping the terrible thoughts, tears the fears. These things lessen with time. Don,t know what therapy you are on, but it will help you, the cancer doctors are wonderful. People tell you to be positive, I really do not know what that means, all I know is I have a 25year old son, and I don't want to leave him, so maybe that is my reason. A nurse once told me, it is all in my head, keep thinking you will live and you will. So I am sending her words to you. You are stronger than you know. Love Jenx

I've been told my cancer is terminal

24 Jul 2019 18:29 in response to Saiyanandcookie

Hi Jen.

It is very hard but I'm just trying to make memories and make the most of each days as much as I possibly can because I know my time is very precious now