Welcome to the forum Marie although I'm sorry to hear about your mum and for the reason it brings you here.

I noticed that you said you didn't quite understand some of the results you read about your mum's cancer. It can be very difficult to understand if there are no medical professionals to explain it to you so if you're not able to speak to your mother's medical team about this do give our cancer nurses a call. They're available to chat to Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m on 0808 800 4040 which is free to call from a UK landline.

And you're right, many members here will be able to understand what you're going through having been in the same position with their parents and loved ones and hopefully some of them will be along soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you. 

Kind Regards, 

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you Steph!

Hi Marie

I'm feeling exactly the same as you are right now and that was also why I joined this site. 

My mum was diagnosed with secondary breast cancer last month and it's terminal. All they can do for her now is try and control the cancer and stop it growing/spreading further. 

I feel terrified and really upset as she is my best friend and the only person I turn to when I'm upset or emotional - so now it just feels awful becuase who do you turn to when the reason you're upset is the person who usually consoles you? 

What type of cancer has your mum been diagnosed with? What is the prognosis so far?

Jo x

Hi,

I am also feeling the same, my mum has been diagnosed with PPC with secondary's and stage 4. Our world has been turned upside down. I don't feel I have asked enough questions but that was because I didn't want to upset mum. My brother lives in France so me relaying everything back to him and him not been here with me has been so difficult. I am so angry, life is so unfair x

Hey Jo, 

thanks for replying and I'm sorry about your mum, how is she and how are you? 

My mum has been diagnosed with Lung cancer, not sure about the stage yet and the doctors still haven't told us the prognosis..... forever waiting to be honest but I think she's going to have an appointment with the doctors about discussing the whole thing soon. 

Hope to hear back to you soon and let's both stay strong for our mothers! x

Marie

Hello, 

first of all, I'm sorry for what you're going through and that I hope you're feeling better. Please do not hesitate to talk here, even though I literally can't even begin to understand how you feel with relaying such news to your brother, who's far away from you. You are so strong x hope you realise that! 

Hope to hear back from you! 

Marie x

Hi Marie,

i just feel so alone. I don't know how I'm gonna live without her. Sorry just down tonight xx

Stay strong!! I know its easy for me to say but you are not alone! I've been by my dads side since the day he was diagnosed and my brother who also lives in France has other priorities and puts so much pressure on me demanding to know what is going on. Getting through the day caring for my dad and supporting my mum- the last thing I want to do is repeat it all over the phone to him. Its seems such a lonely place right now! But we have to be strong! Thinking of you x

hi 

I know that feeling all to well it's not a nice feeling and I'd like to say it gets better but I didn't find that true I lost my mum in November last year to secondary bone cancer and it was the worst but with support it helps a little bit x

Hey Holmsey,

first of all I need to remind you of how strong you are. Secondly, I wanted to say that what you're feeling is common amongst us all here and normal. I do feel sorry for you and your situation and I just wanted to say stay strong, it's perfectly normal to feel alone!!! But I just want you to spend as much time with your mum and just stay positive for her and you as this terrible disease has ruined lives. Don't let it ruin yours!!!!let's be strong, which is definitely easier said than done but we have to try for our mums!