Hi

There will be so many who relate to your words at the thought of losing a parent to this horrid disease. I lost my Dad to prostate/lung cancer some 8 years ago (am an only child) and it is not easy watching a loved one go through this journey. I actually felt my Dad was the strongest man ever at the time (he refused all treatment and when the end neared some two years after diagnosis requested and was given hospice care).  I will be forever grateful to the staff who were so supportive of my Dad, Mum, me and my own family.

There are no words I can offer to take away your pain but am sending a virtual hug and do use the forum when you need to offload or share your story.  I joined a while ago (wish I had the  when my Dad was ill) when it was my husband who was diagnosed as terminally ill. I needed somewhere to share feelings and did not want to overload my kids and grandkids as needed to be there for them too. Jules54

Hi

My first time on here but can totally understand where you're coming from.

My dad was diagnosed with colon cancer 2 years ago and we were told it had all been removed and only mop up a chemo was needed. Sadly, after emergency surgery last year it had come back and more chemo was needed.  Unfortunately,  it took 2 attempts to find out exactly that worked. In April,  we were told It was working and shrunk slightly. However,  on Thursday we were told there was no more chemo as he kidneys couldn't cope, they had found another tumour and have given him 6 months to live.

I live 170 miles away from dad and we are a real close family. I feel totally lost and am swinging between being strong and putting a brave face on and crying. I haven't been able to get home to see him yet as I work for the nhs. 

I can't imagine life without him and am terrified losing him. I have a picture from my sister's wedding last year and just want my dad back. The one who had no worries. Dad is determined to prove everyone wrong and still be here this time next year.

My dad is hero, like yours is to you. 

Sorry for pouring this out but I can totally sympathise with how you are feeling.

x

Hi everyone, I was hit with the news that my beloved Dad had terminal cancer in April. 

Its taken a while, but  some days I feel I have come to terms with it?!? Other days I just feel I don't know what to make of it all!! He has been diagnosed with lung and liver cancer  and is at stage 4, so has decided his best option is to go with the flo and accept no treatment as it would only give him an extra few weeks in our world.  He has encountered some other health issues in the lead up to his diagnosis and has come out the other side a stronger man! I am so pleased to recognise the transformation he has gone through since his diagnosis but it's just a shame it's taken this for him to sort himself out.  He is enjoying the family get togethers he has missed/ chosen to bypass due to his previous endeavours and I feel blessed that he is recognising his place as a father and grandfather even though it is spurred on by the dreaded 'C' . We still aren't exactly sure how  much longer he'll be with us but we are, as a family , making the most of the time we have with him.  We love you so much Dad,and Grampy  All our love the Manns, Ellis's, Honeybornes and Skuses.xxx

Hi so so sorry my own dad passed away with the same illness march 2014.. he was so brave and totally our hero. We was with him and had the chance to say goodbye.. we all miss him so much and would love even another 10minuites... i always talk about him to my children and lok back at thousands of photos.. even had a tatooo of his nickname.. be strong and proud.. thought are with you x

hi to everyone. i myself am trying to come to terms with my dads diagnosis who was diagnosed with gullet cancer which has spread to his lungs this was 4 weeks ago . we were told there is nothing they can do for him as he wouldnt survive the treatment due his poor kidney function and heart health.he is slowly losing weight and a couple of weeks ago he had a mild stroke being the second one hes had in recent months. he is now slowing down hardly being able to do much as he doesnt have the energy and doesnt feel like eating much to the frustration and stress of my mum.he also finds himself feeling extremelly cold even on warm days.i feel i have to be strong for him and my mum trying to help out where possible which at the moment is driving them to appointments etc. i m considering everyday i can see my dad and chat with him is a bonus as we dont know how long we have him so trying to make the most of it. ((hugs)) xxx