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I'm at a loss

3 Jan 2018 03:51

September 21st 2017. I lost my mum.

The council won't let me stay in the house as it's a 2 bed.

I work as a carer. For all I love my job I'm struggling as I cared for my mum. And every time i know I've got work the next day I get in a panic.

I live with my boyfriend but I feel so alone.

I'm not sleeping. Struggling to eat or over indulging.

I've had counselling in the past for other things and found it's never helped. Do I try again since this is different.

I just want my mum. I want to be with my mum.

Re: I'm at a loss

4 Jan 2018 01:22 in response to zoelouisee

I am so sorry to hear about your loss... My mother went to heaven two years ago so I can feel your pain. I would suggest you seek help and perhaps speak to a professional about how you’re feeling. Everyone grieves in there own way and it’s a difficult journey but I can promise you with the right love and support you will become stronger and one day will hopefully be able to to talk about all the beautiful memories of your mother. 

Sending you lots of love 

x

Re: I'm at a loss

4 Jan 2018 08:48 in response to zoelouisee

Hello zoelouisee.  Very sorry that you have lost your mum.  I don't know if you have tried ringing Cruse Bereavement Care (Freefone 0808 808 1677) - they are a well-known established charity and may well be able to help you duyring this period.

Are you on the tenancy agreement of your mum's tenancy?  Are the Council going to rehouse you?  I ask becuase most of my career was in public sector housing.  Sadly councils are so desperate for family accommodation they have to take what sounds to be a harsh action as it costs them a fortune trying to provide temporary accommodation for families to fulfil their legal duty.  If they are not planning on rehousing you you may know that they cannot evict you without a court order and if that is the case you should fight this both with the council and in the court (they will notify you of the hearing).  You cared for your mum and by doing so saved lots of bother for the NHS.   This was something I would have taken into account and  indeed  I have known someone who was no relation to the person for whom she cared, win a court case on this basis.  County courts are less scary than criminal courts.

Take care of yourself.  Best wishes.