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I miss my dad and my grandad

2 Jan 2018 03:05

I lost my grandad in September to dementia then I  lost my dad in November to lung cancer.  I'm struggling. I keep having moments where I just can't stop crying. I'm usually a really positive person and always try to see past the bad. But I just can't seem to see any light.  

Re: I miss my dad and my grandad

2 Jan 2018 04:33 in response to PlanetEarthIsBlue

Hi I’m so sorry 4 u loss of u dad and grandad . My gran passed away in June 2017 2 heart failure. My mother passed away in August 2017 2 bowel cancer . It’s so hard can’t really give u advice. Just wanted 2 say u not alone on here . Take care x 

Re: I miss my dad and my grandad

2 Jan 2018 08:42 in response to PlanetEarthIsBlue

I read your earlier post about the difficulties you had with your dad and the things that went wrong with the system.  That must have been awful for you and probably adds to your ongoing grief.  There is however no time limit on grieving.  I hope you have friends/family with whom you can talk about your losses and how you are feeling.  If not you might like to try ringing the Cruse Bereavement Care freefone 0808 808 1677 who have been helpful to others who have lost loved ones.  Or tell us here on this forum.  My very best wishes to you.

Re: I miss my dad and my grandad

6 Jan 2018 22:56 in response to Gemini39
I'm so very sorry for your loss gemini39. You are right there are no words or advice, but I appreciate your kind thoughts and you are in mine. X

Re: I miss my dad and my grandad

6 Jan 2018 23:00 in response to Annieliz

Thank you Annieliz, it's so hard to find the words to explain how I feel. I have it all in my head and when I go to say it, it all comes out backwards. I'm trying to throw myself into a fresh start, lifestyle change etc. I hate to think I'm trying to forget him but I feel it's my only chance of getting up and getting on with life.