Hi Sheltie_lady

sorry that you find yourself here and welcome to the forum. We all react differently to the possibility of having cancer. Your attitude will come in handy if it does turn out to be breast cancer but you know by reading posts here that there are a lot of us breasts ladies willing and able to offer you support. 

Keep writing down your thoughts feelings as it may help others out there ‘looking in’ :)

Hi,

I am new to the group and BC. I was diagnosed in July. I had  a partial mastectomy with reconstruction 2 weeks ago. Yesterday I went back for the results only to be told that my margins weren’t all clear and I have to go back in on Friday for another op to remove more tissue. I’m also waiting for results of Oncotype test so decide what my treatment plan is. I haven’t been frightened or fazed by anything so far but yesterday I came away really *** off! My wound has just healed and now they are going to re open it. But hey ho. I’m 48 and like you have always been healthy and am crap at being ill. I do hope you don’t become down beat x

Thank you! I went out tonight with my four best friends and I broke the news rather casually, causing one of them to burst into tears, but a nice meal and a couple of drinks later ( we were celebrating three birthdays ) and they were organising my support system!  With my family, friends and now the ladies in this forum, I can take whatever comes with a brave face.  

I would be pee'd off, too, having to be unzipped again, but better that than leave anything behind. If it comes to it, I think I would go for a full mastectomy as I'm an old woman and my knockers have had a good innings, lol! In fact, my second scan showed a nodule in my other breast, too, so I might have the two for the price of one option. It's one way to lose a stone or two!  Thank you for taking the trouble to write, it really helps!

I have just been diagnosed with stage 4 secondary liver cancer. I felt I was in free fall whe I was told a few ago. I want to run but I can't.  We are a member of a club we do not want to be in and yet more that a third of people will get cancer. It's terrifying. I'm finding hard it to be the sick one too. I'm the fixer and doer in my family and I can't get used to not being that person any more. 

I wish you good luck with treatment. I also find Maggie's centre invaluable for counseling at the moment they have save me a few times ️

Hello 747, my heart goes out to you, I can feel the free fall you are feeling. Thank you for taking the time to write to me. I wish you the strength to bear this without such anguish and hope you find the support you need. x

Thank you. Keep in touch and let me know how you are doing too x

Sheltie lady

Welcome!  I am very much in a similar position in that the thought of dying doesn't phase me but that said I'd rather not feel absolutely crap until that time comes, so far so not-too-bad!

I get the impression you're probably an optimist too, and think that is serving me and those who support me well too.

I also had some tears when telling close friends (they should make a movie of when you told your 3 chums - "3 birthdays and a cancer announcement "not sure where Hugh Grant would play a role however), funny when you're the one with the "news" and end up telling them it will be OK.

I do hope that you don't have it too bad personally but also for your poor daughter & families sake by the sounds of things ( I am a perfect patient!).

I only have BC in RHS but want both removed & reconstructed for smaller, more manageable boobs!  I look on it as an opportunity as would have never have done anything otherwise (far too much of a practical, tight, northerner).

Sam 
 

Hey you! Yours was the first post I ever read on this forum and I recognised a kindred spirit although I’m a Lancashire returnee, having worked and lived all over the world but now happily ensconced in the beautiful Lancashire countryside. Still Northern grit!

I love the movie idea!! Hugh would have to be a Sheltie, though. 

I had a surprise just now, as my daughter just admitted she was absolutely shell shocked by my news.  I thought she had been feigning her optimism before my tests to make me feel better but I had no idea she really believed I would be told it was nothing to worry about. No wonder her brother phoned me within minutes of her leaving here. She must have called him from the car before she left my drive.  I feel sorry about that as I hate to worry her.  She’s getting her head round it now and said she’s glad my support network is building but they are only the backing group, and she’s the number one I call. My best friend, the one who burst into tears has been in touch with her, too, offering her support, that’s really pleased me as they probably need more support from each other than I do  

We've decided not to tell anyone else until I have details and after an upcoming family wedding. 

I’m going to start on that film script now. Lol!

That did make me laugh, i had both breasts done, I now have the pert breasts of a 20 year old, ony problem is that I dont have the face to match - i do think this is something the surgeon should remedy at the same time :)