Hi all,

i need some help. My dad passed away on 31st october 2017. My parents were seperated for 6 years before my dad died. my dad would always ask her to come back home or to just visit. She visited him off and on over the last year of his life. I was his primary care giver. (my dad wasnt ill or anything until 22nd october when he was admitted to a&e). I took care of my father, especially in the last days of his life. I have begged my mother to come see him in the hospital, which she refused at first, but ahe eventually did visit him for 3 days out of the 7 that he was there. She didnt say long even though my father begged her to stay to wait for me on those 3 days. 

So since then my mother has been verbally abusive towards me. I mean seriously verbally abusive. Just over the weekend, a watch that he left for her, cant be repaired so she called me to tell me that my father will rot in hell (and she respeated this about 10 times). She even called my sister and tried to create problems between her and myself over my father's estate. I give my mother anything she has asked for concerning material items from the house, i tried to tell her that we need to be together now more than ever and ofc i listen to her when she calls me crying hysterically stating how she loves my father etc. -which is dialy

My question is, i know that anger is part of the grieving process, but i cannot accept that she has horrible things to say about my father, when i too, need to greive. Need some insight of anyone is out there.