Hi

Sorry you are having all this extra stress and worry.

Can't your specialist nurse advise you on this?

So much for your workmates with that attitude....

I don't see why either the GP or hospital can't give you a note.

Hope you have a speedy recovery x

Sorry you're feeling so isolated.

Scary times atm without anything else added on too!

Workmates? Clearly not mates:angry:you take no notice of such insensitive people when you're going through such horrific time. 

You take your time to recover and be kind to yourself.

You can't pour from an empty cup!!!

thank you for your reply i really like your slogan, my cup is definately empty at the moment

I am glad that you have had your operation which is the most important thing

i am sure other things will sort themselves out with time

As for feeling useless - the fact that you have reached out means that you are useful to other people who might have some of the same feelings

it is a worrying time and anxiety comes and goes

Ypu are a beacon of light

keep well and sending blessings

Sadly you’re not alone in how you feel but you’re far from ugly and worthless, you’re a beautiful person dealing with uncaring people and battling through cancer. That makes you amazing

I can’t believe the people at work, that’s just nasty behaviour. I hope it never happens to them and no one be there for them when they need them most. 

Re the certificate, that should come from your gp. I had a short cert from the hospital after surgery but everything else came from my doctor. If you can have a chat with your doctor and tell them how you’re feeling, it might be good to talk it through.

its tough going through treatment etc so give yourself a break and definitely a treat. Sending lots of love and kindness to you xx 

Hi mascot.

These are not your work mates.Clearly they need to read up about breast cancer.

You don't always have chemo, some ladies have surgery then radiotherapy.

With regards to your surgery try and speak to your breast care nurse.

By the way your not ugly or worthless, talk to your breast care nurse.

I felt like you few months ago,but now I have two wonderful,kind, caring people.One is my brilliant breast care nurse and the other lady is my brilliant doctor, which without their empathy and care and been good listeners I would not be here.They have bent over backwards for me

Please talk to your nurse you should have been given one.

Laney

Hi i have spoken to my breast care nurse today although i was to asamed to let her know how i really feel,she is however getting a sick note sorted for me as i should have been given one for longer than i was. I am trying to be positive but its so hard

Hi mascot

Believe me I know how hard it is.

You can be ok one minute then you run into a brick wall.I burst into tears anytime and wonder why.

You take one day at a time, be yourself never mind who says this or you should have had chemo.Since when do your work friends know better than your oncologist.

You know yourself that you have had breast cancer.Dont be ashamed of how you feel flower,I felt like you and still do some days.

It's not only the shock of having breast cancer,but the after math of it.

It must be awful to think so called work friends don't think you have had breast cancer.

People can be so cruel and hurtful.x

Hi Laney

thank you for your reply, i think that you are right everything is just a shock and i feel like i am on one big rollercoster at the moment and i cant get off. I have really found out what some people i thought of as friends, are really like and i dont like what i have found out, i think that that is not helping me at the moment.

hope your keeping ok virtual hugs x

Hi mascot

When I was diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer I thought I had good friends.Well it turned out I didn't, since I have had cancer in February this year not one phone call from any of them.It got to me and it hasn't helped me with my treatment either,

I didn't get the support from my medical team throughout my first 6 cycles either,but now I have a good doctor and lovely breast care nurse too, because my cancer is in my lymph nodes now too.

I have also met someone on this web chat who has and is helping me because she has had breast cancer too,and she seems a lovely lady too I also keep in touch with.

Your not on your own , please feel free to contact me anytime you feel lonely or want to talk

xxxxxx