Diagnosed breast cancer but feeling OK - am I odd?

Hello,

Initial diagnosis just RHS breast at stage 2 but grade 3 so having chemo pre surgery, 1st EC on 29th August, awaiting CT, bone scan & biopsy on LHS, results due 21st August.  Had really quick & excellent treatment compared to many plus am a stoic/daft Yorkshire lass who is ready for an adventure (although I can think of better ones!!)

Been looking at the forums more so for practical advice re what to expect re chemo, what I should be doing re diet, questions to ask the cancer team who are supporting me.

Told all family & close friends and set up a whatsapp group so they know what I am doing, so far enjoying this as it’s an opportunity for all to be entertained as well as not having to have the same bl00dy conversation over & over. Definitely decided against face book as they're not close & I know it would be filled with motivational quotes - not what I am after at all. 

Hopefully there are some other people out there who are feeling relatively positive, in the meantime am off to Edinburgh fringe this weekend to watch some very odd shows - whoop, whoop!

  • Hi there

    welcome to the forum but sorry you find yourself here. I don’t think it odd, it’s a breath of fresh air to find someone with your character and positivity, I’m sure it will carry you a long way.

    Ive not had chemo as mine was a grade2 ER+ but there are some fantastic ladies on here who are currently undergoing chemo so hopefully  [@TwinTwo]‍ and [@Marlyn]‍ to name but a few will come along to support you.

    all the best x

  • Heyup Yorkshire lass,

    Finished chemo in may, I didn't cold cap, will you? I'm not going to lie, it was pretty brutal the last couple of cycles but perfectly doable. My friend sailed through hers, so we are all different...

    i love your attitude I have a feeling your going to grab chemo by the horns and give it a ruddy good shake...

    i will have a think on some questions you may want to ask your team..in the meantime....enjoy Edinburgh...ochayethenoo!!!! X

  • I too was diagnosed with a stage 1 grade 3 this week, I find that people are waiting on me to breakdown, my mum keeps saying “you can’t keep this up”, but tbh that’s how I feel, ok x 

    I am hoping to start 18 weeks of Chemo Tues week, then surgery then 5 weeks of radiotherapy.

    i have 2 kids and I’m just keeping my energy and spirits up for them and me and I will continue on as normal until I can no longer, hoping that it doesn’t come to that xx

  • MagpieMaggie

    So sorry for the delay but for once I don't think my lack of technical skills are to blame, been having some challenges with logging on to this site which has now seen fit to forget me so with a suffix of 1 and am shadow of my former self !!

    Ta for the reply & forwarding.

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  • Marlyn

    Apologies - bloody website wouldn't let me in, forgot me and made me be the next version of myself ( like cancer??)

    Yep, I had 17 inch locks (well grey & dyed) until a week ago, I now have a pixie style but which makes me look vvv butch lesbian - which came in very handy at the fringe!  So really looking forward to the first 10-15 mins of the cold beastie...it will just add to my experiences of late.  As a hardy northerner (who has previously not know she'd broken ankles & pelvis) am sure I'll be fine, whether my hair is as rock hard as the rest of me will be answered soon...

    It will be interesting to see how I respond to the EC which am having first, strange there's such a variety of impacts on people but guess we're all individual, from what I read the taxol which I'm having after is the killer...lovely!

    Edinburgh was fabby, I go every year with a pal who has the same irreverent outlook on life as me, the lady boys of Bangkok were my favourite and my cheeks ached every day from laughing like an idiot.  I heartily recommend it to those who like something a bit different.

    Thanks again for reply, knew I wasn't odd, just Yorkshire-ish

     

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  • Hi Patrice

    I have stage 2, grade 3...nice to know that something in your body is aggressive eh?  Mind you I think I've been referred en masse as aggressive before so shouldn't come as a shock I guess.

    You sound equally strong (or as daft) as me which is good, I am however really glad that I don't have kids I think that would put me in a different position to hats off to you.  Two stupid fat cats really don't care what's happening as long as I'm there to feed that fat monkeys.

    According to my maths you'll be 2 days into your chemo-how was/is it?  Hopefully not too challenging.  My first is Thurs 29th so am getting my chemo kit together - digital thermometer, headband etc..  Any tips as you're enchemo (as they don't say).

    Why is it such a pain in the *** to edit messages on here, I do always try to spell correctly and do some grammar and this does not help.

    Anyway enough countering on, houses don't clean themselves and was the most upset when I read that I actually need to keep my house clean...really upsetting as enjoy being at the *** end of domestic chores.

    Tara

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  • Countering on!!! Arghhh

    chuntering on more like....but do many other words wrong, think I have chemo Brian already

     

    and interesting that *** is OK but 5LUT is not...will be pushing the boundaries re naughty words to test the system more so now

  • Hi Yorkshire _defector.

    In some ways your attitude is a lot like me, I've got to be careful what I say being male surround by a lot of (ladies), some people can't figure out why I'm chearful when I'm non curable, but I'd rather be like this than hide in a corner roaring my eyes out at the smallest thing, the attitude helps a lot when cancer visits us, hope you enjoy your party night, (what did I say hope for) you'll enjoy it nomatter what,, best wishes.... Billy 

  • Crikey Billy you're a prolific poster - and I don't think I've ever said that strange combination of words before.

    Sounds like you've got quite a challenge on there, I do too believe that you choose your attitude and for me being upbeat makes me & others upbeat, I do also relish in surprising and annoying others so being positive helps there too!

    Right Billy, you're preventing the hoovering, gotta get on ... such a procrastinator..

    Tara

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  • I'll have to get my dictionary, (I had to get it out to spell that lucky its on the cover saves searching to much), hope you know what they mean and your not being rude again,, nice to have a, positive personality (another word I had to check) on board. Best wishes... Billy