So my dad had swelling in his legs in December and after lots of tests has been diagnosed with liver (bile duct) cancer. He is preparing to have resection surgery but they are unsure if he is fit enough. He is currently going to the gym and trying to get his lungs well enough (they diagnosed low emphysema) he won't let me in to any of it. My sister in law goes to all his appointments (I live 280 miles away) but I want him to give consent for me to speak to his team so I know what is happening. What do I do? He keeps saying to ask my sister in law but I am never given full information. I understand that he wants to protect me but I am going insane not knowing. They don't know if he is well enough to have the surgery and if not it is palliative. That's all I know really. I just want to know what is happening. I'm sorry if if this is not the place to ask what I should do but I haven't found anywhere suitable so far. Thanks if you have any answers