Dad struggling with recovery20 Mar 2023 22:08
My dad had appendical cancer and goblet cell.
it is a really rare form of cancer and his surgery was massive.
he had the surgery in august and still hasn't fully recovered he hasn't been able to go back to work and i think this is what is causing the depressive moods as he is stuck in the house all day every day alone as me and my mom work full time. he also has a huge hernia that is poking through the mesh that has replaced his peritoneal wall as the whole thing was removed, half his bowel, some of the intestine. the surgery was really huge.
i try to spend my lunch hour with him and ask if he wants lunch with me but he never does
he seems majorly depressed and drinks himself silly sometimes he nearly falls down the stairs and always talks about how he doesn't care anymore and is going to die soon. he is 62 in july and both of his parents died at 65, my nan was liver cancer
i worry he is going to harm himself even though he told me as a kid it's the selfish way out but recently he seems very depressed
i was wondering if anyone else has a closed off parent who acts this way, i completely get why he is feeling like this as it was such a traumatic experience but i am so scared he is going to hurt himself
as a family we have had a really terrible 3+ years and this is the cherry on the cake it's just really worrying
we lost my moms mom to MND in 2021 and now my dad being so poorly it's took a toll on all of us we just don't know what to do to help him or ourselves