Wonderful news! I can fully understand your relief. Best wishes to you, and your family. xx Harry
I'm so glad to hear that everything is OK - what a relief that must be!
It's great to hear that you'd like to stick around on Cancer Chat to add some words of support to others who are going through the same worries as you did. That's brilliant. We'll look forward to hearing more from you as and when you post next
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Perhaps it would help to take your own series of photos of the nail, so that you can personally track any changes. Take a new set every 2 months or so, but keep the old ones for comparison. That way you can check for yourself whether anything has changed. If nothing has changed, then there's nothing to worry about, and if there is a change then you'll spot it quickly and can take action.
Regarding test anxiety, I had a radical prostatectomy 7 years ago for early prostate cancer. The outcome was good, but I needed to have a PSA blood test every three months. And I was a complete nervous wreck as the time for each test approached. Once the blood had been taken, the time waiting for a result was dreadful. Since this was happening every three months, I was getting little respite. I discussed this with my GP, who referred me to a local counselling service. I received regular counselling and over time my anxiety reduced. I now have a test every 6 months, and I'm much calmer at the prospect.
Clearly, this anxiety is having a devastating impact on your life and maybe it would help you. Availability of counselling varies by area, and you might need to go private to be seen quickly, but your doctor should be your first port of call. If you can't find a counsellor, then you might consider acupuncture (also private) which is more readily available. I find that acupuncture is very relaxing, and might help you cope better with your anxiety.
Finally, it's worth remembering that cancer is only a word, not a sentence. It also doesn't define who you are.
Hello, thanks for your reply. I have been taken photos and haven’t seen much of a change apart from the colour being lighter.
My partener has an appointment at the doctors today at 12 regarding the mole. I really hope it’s nothing.
I really do need to get something sorted about my anxiety because it does rule my life. Just want my life back to normal.
Hi again, my partner went to the doctors and got the mole checked out everything is ok with his mole it doesn’t look sinister. Just told to take a photo to check it every couple of months like you should with any mole. So I’m super relieved I couldn’t bare the thought of anything happening to him! Just myself to worry about now but as long as I’ve got him I feel so much calmer.
If you look in the thread I started just today about how to cope with an MRI, you'll find a posting by Chrissie, who is a vital member of our forum. I'm going to follow that advice.
Hi telemando, I’ve had a look I might try the meditation on YouTube. I haven’t even been told I’ve got cancer I just have this stupid fear of being told I have it at the next checkup. Thanks for the reply, talking to people on here helps a lot!
Lol brilliant idea.. does give people some hope though.. literally 5 minutes ago I was panicking big time now my nerves are calming down. I’ve got until February 15th when I see my dermatologist to deal with this anxiety. God help me lol
I emailed my dermatologist today and asked for an earlier appointment with her and explained my anxiety. Unfortunately she’s on leave until Monday so have to wait until then for a response. I’m making myself so Sick with worry that I feel I have to do something so I’m hoping she will either give me an earlier appointment or at least some reassurances. I don’t know why I can’t accept what she said at the first appointment that she wasn’t concerned I think it’s because she asked me to return in February for a checkup it’s making me overanalyse everything.