Boyfriend has stopped communication30 Mar 2023 19:35
my boyfriend was diagnosed with bladder cancer 3 months ago, he has been receiving treatment and started feeling more and more depressed.
At first he told me everything, included me and told me daily was was going on. still calling me pet names and being loving.
this started to stop slowly, he told me Valentine's Day he wasn't feeling very romantic right now but thanked me for my loving words ect..he still read all my messages but doesn't want to see me face to face. Responses became slower too, he said he is very depressed and not sure if he is going to make it even.
he had to go into hospital a few weeks ago, a week after the first one, he answered that it isn't going very well, doesn't want to talk about it, needs peace and quiet, but it's nothing personal, sorry...
I replied I will respect his wishes, and sent some positive and loving words with it, he read it but no reply, since then I have sent a few messages of a pic of a sketch with some words attached a few times, I'm an artist, and wanted him to know I am still thinking of him but understand his need for peace. He is reading these soon after I send them but still no response.
we are both musicians and use the same sites to play, he has logged on invisible but I know he is there, I don't know if he talks to anyone else and it's just me he is ignoring..
we were/are very close and loving normally, I am hurting and at a loss as to what to do..
does anyone have any idea if I am just being silly to keep contact from me to him to try support him or am I being a fool, and it's better for us both if stop messaging him altogether.
I woke up one morning and was told my boyfriend has cancer, it was a shock and scary and very upsetting, I didn't expect this kind of silence, I know he is scared, and hurting and in pain, it makes me cry myself to sleep, I want to help him but not sure how anymore , I love him with all my heart, and will stand by him through it all it no matter what .. I just don't know what to do anymore..
any advice or ideas would be most appreciated.
thank you and god bless you all xxx