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Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

7 Jan 2020 23:23

Found 2 lumps in my breast just before Christmas, also had dimpling. I had a mammogram and ultrasound yesterday and was told that they think it's cancer. Wasn't expecting to be told that at this stage. Waiting on biopsy results 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 15:10 in response to Niknik

Hello Niknik and welcome to the forum. 
I'm sorry to hear that you've recently been told that the hospital think you may have breast cancer. This period of waiting for the results to confirm things can be difficult and I'm sure that you've likely thought about all kinds of scenarios. Try and give Dr Google a wide berth if you can. It tends to be somewhat unreliable and until you know exactly what you're dealing with it won't give you any answers but will make you feel more anxious about things. 

I'm going to tag in @Jolamine ‍ and @Magpiemaggie ‍ to this post as two of the lovely ladies here who have been through the journey of diagnosis and treatment. I'm sure they they will be able to offer some words advice. 

We also have a team of nurses here at Cancer Research UK that you're welcome to call to talk to if you think it may help. They are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 
I hope that you don't have to wait too long for your results. Keep in touch and let us know how you get on. 

Best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 16:21 in response to Niknik

 

Hi Niknik,

Welcome to our forum. I can well imagine how upset you are feeling at the moment. I was told this at my first appointment too and boy, was this scary! There are just so many unknowns and, I just didn't know where to turn.

Have you been given a date to go back for your results? You will usually get a recall in 1-2 weeks to discuss the findings.

Keep yourself as busy as  possible to help distract yourself rom the wait and, follow Jenn's advice about staying away from Dr Google.

I have had 2 bouts of breast cancer and a number of false alarms in the past 10 years, so if I can be of any help to you, I am always here. Do please keep us updated on your progress.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 18:14 in response to Moderator Jenn

Thank you, I have tried to stay away from google, and am busy at work trying to be normal as I can be for my 2 children's sake. However I really not feeling well today, pain across the bottom of my lower back and elsewhere in my body, does anyone generally feel unwell at all? 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 19:28 in response to Niknik

The waiting is so hard. I also have two children. I just kept myself busy with them and working full time. Fingers crossed you get good news. My breast cancer had no symptoms. Found by chance. Even now I feel great.

Sending you lots of hugs xx

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 20:49 in response to Jolamine

I have just been told they will ring me between 10-14 days, I work as a TA in my children's school so am kept busy in the day and then can't sleep at night but had a better night last night. It's not knowing the unknown. But this forum has been so helpful.

Thank you

 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 20:51 in response to Glasgowgal

Thank you for the kind words, keeping everything crossed

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 21:36 in response to Niknik

 

Hi Niknik,

If you are a TA in your children's school, you will have plenty to take your mind off things throughout the day. Most of us find that it is the nights that are the worst. This seems to be when our imiganations tend to play havoc with us. Glad to hear that you had a better night last night. What ages are your children and, have you told them anything yet?

You are quite right. The unknown is the most scary part of all this. Things will improve once you know a little more about what you are facing.

Kind regards,


Jolamine xx

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

9 Jan 2020 22:41 in response to Jolamine

My children are 8 and 5, my daughter knew I had a hospital appointment but I didn't tell her why, as she didn't ask. She saw my dressings in my breast and I needed to let them both know that it was sore. And she did ask what they had done, so I explained. It was once she was in bed she asked me what they were checking for and I pleading ignorant and just said I didn't know I would just have to wait and see. And her response which took me by surprise was. "As long as it's not that cancer thing, because you die from that".

I didn't say it was what they were checking for but reassured her that that wasn't the case and that lots of people survive to. It is so hard she is such a bright child.

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

10 Jan 2020 00:54 in response to Niknik

 

Hi Niknik,

Your children are still very young to take all of this in. Many mums don't tell their children until they have the full results. They don't need chapter and verse, but they do need to know what is happening. Children have big ears and you don't want them picking up on telephone or other conversations. By the sound of things, your 8 year old would soon pick up on any vibes in the house.

It sounds as if you'll need to change her mind about dying with cancer. As you know that used to be the case, but fortunatelymany people are now living with it. My mum died from secondary cancer after having breast cancer for 12 years. I was diagnosed 10 years after she had passed and there is just no comparison between the diagnosis, treatment and after care that she had and that which I have experienced.

If you need help, there are bookets giving guidance on telling children. If you ask your breast care nurse, I'm sure that she will be able to provide one for you.

Kind regards,
Jolamine xx

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

10 Jan 2020 07:08 in response to Jolamine

Probably being over sensitive, as not much sleep had again last night and don't think I explained myself well in last thread, but after reading this in the middle of the night it left me feeling like I was a bad parent.

i haven't told my daughter anything in detail, I work in there school so we usually walk in together but Monday was my appointment, she had seen on the calendar it said "hospital appointment" so put to and to together. 
she noticed the big dressings on my breast in the week, and I literally said as little as I could get away with saying. I have not told her what they did or why or anything.
I certainly have not taken phone calls discussed anything in front of her, and when she mentioned the Cancer word it really took me by surprise but she had asked what cancer was after seeing the adverts on tv a couple of months ago and we talked about all the people who get it but are fine, however a friend of hers at school had recently mentioned someone they knew dying of cancer and that's why she said it. And like I said in my previous thread, I made it clear that dying from cancer was not the case, and reminded her of the talk we had. The vibes in our house are as good as they can be but I certainly haven't given my children any inclination of what is going on in my head at the minute until I get the results.

sorry I just felt I needed to say that to explain myself better. 
And I'm sorry to hear about your Mum and what you have been through.

Nikki xx
 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

10 Jan 2020 15:46 in response to Niknik

 

Hi Nikki,

I didn't meant to point the finger in any way - sorry if you got that feeling. I was just giving you the benefit of what other parents of young children do when confronted with a cancer diagnosis. Having said that, there is no one rule for all. Breast cancer is one of the most treatable forms of cancer, which is good news.

It is possible to conceal things for a short time, but becomes more difficult in the long term. You never know when you're going to get phone calls from the breast care clinic to return for test results, etc. Friends and family may also phone you at 'inconvenient' times too.

Children have big ears and, can often overhear conversations that they're not supposed to hear. They can also pick up vibes from you. Even though you sound as if you are doing well and keeping in charge of things, I'm sure that you have your wobbly moments too. Children can pick up on these vibes very easily and, by the sounds of things your daughter seems more perceptive than most.

There is no need to worry about telling them until you get your results. My point in bringing up this topic was to give you time to think about what you want to tell them and, to prepare yourself to do this.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

 

 

 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

11 Jan 2020 03:00 in response to Niknik

Hi Niknik

Sorry have just seen @Moderator Jenn ‍ has tagged me to offer support. @Jolamine ‍ has been a great support to me when I was going through BC in 2018/19 and she's been there done that. I haven't much to add but I was told at the breast clinic they thought mine was normal but they would do biopsies anyway, thank goodness they did as it revealed high grade DCIS and post op found invasive cancer among the DCIS. IF you have BC its a blessing they found it as they will be able to treat it. The treatment isnt too bad,  it is doable and the ladies on here will testify that life continues afterwards Happy

As a mother myself I know you will be thinking of your children, we all do it. It makes this diagnosis even harder but try and look at it positively. The results may come back benign or, if not. you will be treated to get rid of the disease and its a great feeling once the cancer is gone. 

Please let us know how you get on x

 

 

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

11 Jan 2020 04:57 in response to Jolamine

Thank you for all your advice and support, I rang my nurse today as after a long week at work, checking my phone, I just wanted to know if there was any idea, of anything and even though I have the weekend to get through she was able to tell me that she thought my results were back but not sure if they were ready. But promised she would ring me Monday morning, do a little glimmer of hope that I don't have to much longer to find out. Fingers crossed it's good news xx

Biopsy’s sent off yesterday

11 Jan 2020 05:35 in response to Niknik

 

Hi Niknik,

This is good news. They usually hold an MDT meeting when the results are back. This is where all the people who will be involved in your care, discuss the best way forward for you. If they're back, they may still need to go to this meeting first, but in that case, you should hopefully get them sometime this week .

I've certainly got my fingers crossed for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx